I'm done everything to change my life and to get her back in it. I don't know why she has to put down my husband so much and put down my life style.
2006-10-02 09:34:16 · 26 answers · asked by Jason D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Jason...you have a husband? Obviously she puts down your lifestyle...as would most people.
2006-10-02 09:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by An Unhappy Yahoo User 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know how old you are, but for some reason some mom's just can't let go. It's like they see you at a certain age & that's it. My husband is 47 & his mom still thinks she knows what is best for him & she has no qualms about telling him so. She tells everyone that she just wants her kids to be happy, then she complains when they do ANYTHING without first letting her know so she can throw her two cents in. The only thing that saves us is we live like 3000 miles away from her!!!!!!
As for your lifestyle, you said it yourself, "YOUR" lifestyle. I know you would probably like to be able to include her in your life & that of your husband, but she needs to realize & understand that he IS your husband & it IS your lifestyle. Let her know that it bothers you & hurts you when she does nothing but criticize you & your husband. If it doesn't work, you'll have to make a decission. Do you want to be criticized & put down, do you want your husband criticized & put down or do you want to be happy???? Just be sure to be up front with her about how it makes you feel when she puts you & your husband down.
Let her know that YOUR love does not have conditions & hers shouldn't either.
2006-10-02 16:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with pen and paper and write how you feel. Don't stop, don't think just write. After you feel you've got it all out, write her a letter - handwritten - and mail it to her. Keep in mind that she cannot change you and you cannot change her. You can only express how you feel about how she treats you and set an example of how you expect to be treated. I'm sure you do feel good about many things that she does. Tell her.
2006-10-02 16:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by Frankie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that the problem could be that she doesn't like your husband or she thinks that you are not ready to have your own family?
Sit her down and let her know that you love your husband and its wrong for her to interfere with your relationship because it hurts you very much.
2006-10-02 16:45:31 · answer #4 · answered by jingirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does it because you allow her. Tell her to that if she continues to put down your husband then you would have to distance yourself from her. If you continue to allow this she would eventually ruin your marriage. I have been married for 18 years and my husband and I do not allow family members to disrespect us. If his family members try he deals with them and I deal with mine. Never let a member of your family disrespect your spouse. Only you can stop it. If you receive financial support from her refuse it. She would surely get the message. Ask her to kindly keep her opinions to herself or she would force you to choose between her and your husband. Put you foot down before it is too late.
2006-10-02 16:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ina T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her to butt out and that you don't want to hear her putting you or your spouse down. If she keeps it up then stop going around her/talking to her and she will get the hint really fast. She has to know that you can stand up for yourself and that you aren't going to put up with her crap.
2006-10-02 16:36:00 · answer #6 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she loves you and wants your life to be perfect and happy. Her idea of perfect and happy are different than yours because she grew up in a different time. She had a different outlook for you and you may have to work for sometime to convince her you are happy. Give it time.
2006-10-02 16:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by kaiti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably cos you have what she dont you need to have this out with her ,shes the one with the problem not you ,,,,,she should be happy that you are happy,talk to her tell her how good he is and make her understand it fron your side she might not even realy realise this is affecting you this way im sure she will back off when she knows how good he is for you .
2006-10-02 16:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your name is Jason, you have a male avatar, and your mother is putting down your husband?
Hmmm, methinks something fishy is going on here
2006-10-02 16:37:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um. .. I guess you're a guy married to a guy? Or are you using your husband's avatar?
If you're gay, then she should accept it but if she can't , you could limit your time around her until she comes around.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 16:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Mama R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋