Why do people think parents don't Love thier children when they spank them...read below?

Question

I got diciplined Plenty as a kid, straight up beat downs for shop lifting, bad grades dispresecting adults if it was wrong.

I got THE BELT. No talking, no time out, no counting to 3. I turned out just fine. It was becasue I knew my dad loved me thou, he wanted what was best for me.

I don't get why people just assume a Parent is an Abusive ****** that hates thier kids becasue they spank them, hey at least these parents are taking the time to make sure thier kids are going in the right direction.

I say if there were more butt whoopings there would be less shooting and teenagers acting a fool.

Answer 1

Parents are scared of their kids these days. They've been brainwashed by the "experts", newsmedia, doctors, etc. into believing that spanking a child is wrong, abusive, and shouldn't be done because it will make their children grow up and become raging alcoholics, serial killers, a high school massacarist (is that a word? lol) or any other number of things. I got spanked quite often (only once with the belt though!) as a child. I used to get my great-grandmother's wooden spoon from the kitchen across the backs of my legs. Ouch!

I think spanking is fine IF a) it's warranted; and b) it's a spanking--not a beating, a punching, a hitting, a slapping, or anything else.

When a person has had a bad day at work, an especially rough commute, an argument with their spouse when they get home, then they take that out on their 4 year old for accidentally knocking over her milk at the dinner table by repeatedly hitting her--yes, that's wrong. If a parent finds his or her child with a pair of scissors in their bedroom closet cutting their little brother or sister's hair when the child KNOWS it's wrong--you bet your @ss they deserve a spanking!

Answer 2

It's not that I don't think those parents don't love their children. I, just like you, got the belt... no if's and's or but's about it... But, all I learned that hitting your (and I don't mean YOU, I mean the "you" public in general, sorry) child agressively is an easy way for you to vent your frustrations on your child. And it's not the fact that you're "beating" the sense into your child, it's the fact they can feel the rage, anger and disapointment in you, and that is what scares them.
Now, I am all for a quick smack on the bottom for misbehaving, but I know it does not really hurt my daughter. But, she knows what it MEANS. That's another thing... My daughter understands what a time out means to the point now where (and she's only two) if she knowingly does something wrong she goes straight to her time out corner after doing it. Different punishments work for different children. Another mother I knew at work had one of her teenage daughters run laps around the backyard because her daughter hated to run. Her young son, she made hold his arms his above his head without letting them down until he apologized.
A parent needs to take the time to get to know their child and what works best for them. That's just part of taking on the responsibility of being a parent. The more you understand your child, the better parent you will be, and the happier your whole family will be.

Answer 3

I never got the belt, but I got my butt spanked when I was rotten. At the time, I thought my parents were evil and abusive for doing it, but now that I think back... it worked. My mom slapped in the face once for being a smart a**, I never back talked her again though. I turned out decent, I plan to discipline my kids in the same way.

Answer 4

i think of that spankings on the backside are warranted once you fairly have exhausted all efforts to communicate with the youngster and that they are being fairly unreasonable, including throwing a kicking screaming temper tantrum and could not pay attention or respond to you. Used to get their interest, to not inflict discomfort or suffering, some spankings could be needed. I even have self assurance that for toddlers, some issues deserve a smack on the hand mixed with "no" because of the fact they don't understand the be conscious NO on my own, including whilst they attempt to play with the electrical powered outlet or some thing fairly risky which you would be unable to take the prospect of speaking it out. i understand my young ones are starting to be solid swats to the toosh the 1st few situations they have ran out into the streets, 2-thrice each and every cured them of that genuine speedy, they don't run into the streets in any respect. There are some issues that youngsters would desire to affiliate with a unfavorable reaction considering the fact which you basically have not got the time or luxury of "reasoning" and their instantaneous risk-free practices would desire to dictate those circumstances. the final diagnosis is to have a good discipline gadget in place which you have theory out and to have the two mothers and fathers on an identical internet site, waiting to enforce outcomes whilst needed and stick it out in the process the alligator tears. as quickly as young ones make the relationship between reason and result, they comprehend who's in cost and spankings could be prevented, oftentimes eradicated by potential of age 5 if achieved good.

Answer 5

I can't answer the entire question, but I understand where you are coming from. I got spanked when I was a kid, not all the time, just when I needed it. Personally, I think there is a line between spanking and beating. I don't agree with beating on a kid, but spankings are needed sometimes. Most people just need to mind their own business about reprimanding other peoples children.

Answer 6

I don't believe in spanking children. It is a short term solution to an undesirable behavior.

It can have lasting negative effects on the psyche of a child. And they may end up on the 'couch' talking about their terrible childhood.

A better way of teaching your child good behavior is with ...Behavior Modification, spending time with them, having your "no mean No" and "your Yes mean Yes" don't be wishy washy and give in for your own comfort or needs. Don't make promises and then not keep them. Get them into activities and then go and watch them. Let them know you are proud of them and that you love and care about them. At the same time the child needs boundaries and they must be enforced. The discipline that will happen must be clear to him in advance . He must be certain that you will not waiver from it and that nothing he does will make you change your mind. The child will test these boundaries and you. If you 'Hold Fast'... your battle will be won that time. Others will come up and then you repeat the process. If you give in just ONE time... you will be back to square one.

Answer 7

I think tha those people who dont spank there children are the ones who have the most problems. I was spanked as a child and it did a world of good. Children these days are manlpitive and they now have weapons to frighten there parents. HRS and child abuse, where i am from if you didnt spank your kid for being bad then someone else would.

Answer 8

I was spanked as a child also and I feel I turned out fine. I harbor no grudges against my parents because I knew I deserved the spankings and I knew they loved me. When a child commits a serious offense and they know better because they have been taught the right thing to do,then a spanking done with concern for the child's welfare,as your dad did,is in order. I would be reluctant though to use a belt but my dad did use a paddle once and believe me,I never forgot it and never repeated the offense.

Answer 9

Because the word "ABUSE" is being used too often and kids are clever enough to actually consider their discipline as abuse. My parents spoiled me but they would also beat me down if I got out of line. I don't think that I grew up battered, I have more sense than all of my friends who were never spanked! I think spanking is a good thing! Some parents are just losing control and bargaining with a child is just SAD! Parents are trading and dealing with their kids and they just need to get back to the basics! A good Ole' fashion country butt kickin'!

Answer 10

tell me about it, well i think i only got spanked like 3 times , and the belt as a kid, oh and my mom would like grab me by the arm, and tell me in my face to never do that again, and i always always learned my lesson, i know my parents did it to teach me right from wrong and they love me, can you believe some parents these days?? I hear kids in the grocery store all the time screaming their heads off because they didn't get an ice cream bar, I'm like omfg if that was my child i would slap him !!! Oh yeah and i hate the parents who are like oh that's so cute when they do something wrong, and when they take away the t.v, computer, or video games because they love that or whatever wtf that dosen't work, smack them!! gosh, thank you for writing this i want to tell some of these parents off goshem oh and when they count to like 30 seconds gosho, seriously i am not confident and not trying to brag but yeah me to, my parents smacked me beacsue i deserved it and i am a comeplete nice caring respectable person so yess