Me and my girlfriend were talking today, and we've been going out about a year. We're 18. It came up that she had run away when she was younger, and I sypathetically said 'oh, that must have been bad, where did you go (as in where)?". She said, 'How dare you ask me that question?", I said "What, it was just a casual question?", she then replied "It's hardly a casual question", then she just stormed off without saying anything"
What do I do? I feel like I should apologise, but ideally just want to leave it, but won't that make things worse, as I don't really feel what I should be sorry for. Should I just apologise, or just leave it a couple of days and see if she calls me (she should eventually), what should I say?
LATER:
Got email saying 'i didnt think u'd be stupid enough to not apologise, but u obviously are, maybe u meant to be that mean?
2006-10-02 09:23:52 · 4 answers · asked by g s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's still hurting from what ever happened back then how ever she is using you to blow of her anger - that's not right from her. Call her and invite her over and talk to her - let her tell the whole story and tell her how can you apologize for something you don't know anything about. If she doesn't want to talk about it or she doesn't want ANY questions asked about her past she should NOT bring it up at all. You didn't do anything wrong at all - you asked because you were concerned. As for being mean - not at all - she is the one who is hurting and doesn't know how do deal with it - but she's putting a guilt trip on you and that usually always gets the guys to come crawling up just to make peace - so don't go for that - it's a stupid girl thing -. She's got some issues and she needs to address them and they have nothing do to with you but you can help her to get thru this - it's not going to be easy but worth a try. Good Luck.
2006-10-02 09:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not do anything wrong, but communication is the key my man.
If you love her and want her this is my suggestion. Go get a flower, teddy bear and a card.
The card should read. "Honey, please forgive me if I was insensitive and that I did not realize how painful this subject is for you.....I am sorry."
Then if she is working, go to her job and give it to her. If she is in School, go to her class and give it to her there.
Together the Flower, Teddy Bear and card have to be given to her in a public place, because she has to feel that publicly you place her importance very high and believe me if there are other women there, they will tell her to forgive you.
Then you have to wait for her call. (She will).
When you see her, the frist words should be "I'm sorry" (I am not telling you to be a wimp, but if you love her this is what you have to do my friend).
now from here you have two choices, (1) to wait and find out what was it that you said to make her react? (2) leave it alone and never ask the quesiton again.
Hope i could be of some help
2006-10-02 16:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by cdubsj2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously (but not maliciously) pressed a button in your girlfriend that she is very sensitive about. Do apologize for doing that and even though you did not mean to be mean and are not mean that is what she thought and you want to convince her that you are a nice guy. It does seem odd that it had not happened sooner since you have been going out for a while.
2006-10-02 16:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you did was ask a simple question ... There was nothing wrong in that.. Maybe where ever she had to stay was a bad experience for her and she just doesn't want to re-live it, So then she shouldn't talk about it at all so no ones asks any questions to offend her about it.... I hope all gets better be as i see it you did nothing wrong stand your ground..
2006-10-02 16:31:09 · answer #4 · answered by brutalA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋