I am so in love with this guy. He's 2 years younger than me. (17 & I'm 19) He's a senior in high school and I'm in my 3rd sem. of college. Ok, We were dating for about 13months. All of a sudden when it was time for me to go to college. He decided he just wanted to be friends and told me that we would get back together. Because "I was the one for him". I was so devasted when we broke up (Aug.2005) Next thing, I know he's dating this girl that I thought was my friend. He didn't know we were friends. But, she did. And it really hurts to know that their together. B/c I'm SO STILL IN LOVE WITH HIM! Umm,,, I was in his sister's wedding and I am so close with his family and everybody. I really am so tired of being without him. I've been praying for the day to come that we can be together again; because I really do think he's the one for me. His parents are church going people and that's what I like so much about them. Besides, me and his twin sister are best friends. HELP PLEASE!!!
2006-10-02 09:22:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
B*tch slap the other girl and tell her to back off of your man then walk right up to him, give him the biggest kiss and say do you want me or not? If he says no, then move on hunny, it ain't worth the hassle
2006-10-02 09:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by Fantasy686 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moesha,
You didn't exactly ask a question. So if you are asking what other women would do, or how they would feel about this situation....here goes.
Often, young people like you and your guy have relationships that last for a few years while they are in high school. Because you are in the same school, the same hours of the day and going to the same activities, and going to the same after school places or weekend events- the relationship works well. When he no longer See's you at school and you start getting involved with things going on at college, it is natural for him to develop friendships with other people to do things with, when you aren't there. It has now been a year (since Aug. 2005), that you two have been broken up and there is little chance you will get back together.
It shows poor character on your girlfriends part to start seeing him, if she knew you were still in love with him. She wasn't a very good friend to you, and I'm sorry you have to go thru the feelings you are still having a year later. You have learned a tough lesson, about friendships, and will have to get on with your life.
If you still go to the same church, you can still keep in contact with his parents, and he might realize how lucky he was to have you, but you would be better off to find a new guy who is more mature than he is and who will treat you better.
Good luck ,
Kimmie
2006-10-02 09:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by kimmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Facts: 1. You loved this two-years younger guy. 2. You broke up. 3. Your friend secretly stole him from you. 4. You want to get back with him.
Now, I suggest you look beyond the obvious. You were in love; that was great! Any love given is always an act of the divine; to have loved is never a lost endeavor. You broke up; now, that is something very human. In our world, almost everything comes with an expiry date. Relationships also have the same rule. If you try to use it beyond the expiry date, it's going to poison you. Just let it go, let it stay a fond dream.
That your friend stole him & you got to know about it is something you should thank your stars for! They could have carried it on behind your back, & that would have been worse!
Steel your grit, & soften your heart. He doesn't belong to you anymore because he doesn't deserve you. You are made for greater things & better men. Refill your engine of inspiration with the fuel of fresh ideas, and race ahead!
2006-10-02 09:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by Zombie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. He broke up with you. You are no longer a 'couple"
2. Both of you are free. So is your best friend.
3 Your friend has no obligation to put her life on hold while you get over your hurt; she has no way of knowing how long THAT is going to take.
4. Your feelings for him need not matter to your friend. She would feel otherwise if she thought that he felt the same way about you.
5. You need to find someone else. Your ex is history. You will ALWAYS have a special place in your heart for your first love.
2006-10-02 09:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down dear... sorry to see you in soooooo much pain. Believe me.... if he is truly yours... he will come back....
I think his problem is that he wants to experiene having other friends before deciding if you are the one and only for him... which I fully support.
You need to do the same... you two are toooooo young to know what is out there for you and what the future may be.
The saying goes... if you truly love someone...learn to let them go... if there is love there to begin with... they will come back to you... if not... then you know that they were not yours regardless of how much you may love them.
Ohh and your girlfriend... dump her... she is not your friend if she clearly knew this is the guy you are crazy about and she decides to start going out with him... she is NOT your friend.
Get out there... you are in college... enjoy your college years... there are many guys that are already in college with you... with probably like goals as yours and would be interested in you... but only if you give them a chance to get to know you and you... open your heart to get to meet others and get to know them.
Not saying you should start doing and going out with every Tom, Dick and Harry..... you don't seem that kind of girl anyway... just enjoy your youth... these times will go past you first and you will look back later on and say.. wow... what did I do with those years.. if you sit there sobbing over a guy that can't make up him mind about you....
Good luck.
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2006-10-02 09:32:05 · answer #6 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask us for help?
What could we possibly say to help?
I'm afraid it's the old, old story - you love him but he loves someone else.
In fairy stories you would slip a magic potion into his drink and Bingo! he would love you forever more - but this is real life.
You'll get over it. For all you know there is a guy out there somewhere who loves you but thinks you love this other guy so is keeping away.
2006-10-02 09:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He broke up with you to be with another girl!!!! WAKE UP!!!!! He is not worth your time. Not one single moment of your time. Move on and find a new guy who can tell you the truth rather than lie to you when breaking up with you in order to be with your friend.
2006-10-02 09:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Uncle Tim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes if you 2 are meant for each other then you'll be together..but what if your not...gotta think about that..and what the hell is he doing to you, telling you that you're the one for him and then goes dates your friend...if he really thinks your the one for him then why would he be wasting himself on other girls...maybe you should think twice on whats really happening here.
2006-10-02 09:26:01 · answer #9 · answered by luv muh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're young and you'll get over it - you should continue your relationship with his family - but if your 'so called gfriend' didn't even give you the curteousy to let you know that she's seeing him - then dump her! there's plenty of fish and you're way to young to settle down!
2006-10-02 09:25:07 · answer #10 · answered by thenakats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋