I am pregnant with my ex. bf child but he is dating my best friend now. I am also with someone else and have been for 8 months. This happened 2 months ago when me and my guy were on a break and i saw my ex. bf at a frat part and well we hooked up while being very drunk. I was not in the right state of mind and he had been dating my best friend for 3 months. I dont want to hurt my best friend or my bf.
2006-10-02 09:21:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know my best friend worships my ex. bf
2006-10-02 09:22:42 · update #1
I dont think i can abort after my ultra sound and this is not the only time i have had casual sex with him while on break from my bf.
2006-10-02 09:30:12 · update #2
There is really no choice but to tell everyone involved , unless you want to have an abortion then don't tell anyone. Some things are better left unsaid. But really you have to tell everyone involved because you can't hide it for long, it wont be easy but you'll get through it! Good Luck!!
2006-10-02 09:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by dreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is one of those things that you can't really hide. They are going to find out that you are pregnant. (please don't be rash and abort the child because of the inconvenience to your life) It's not worth it to try to carry one a lie so save yourself the extra suffering and tell the people involved. Being drunk is not the acceptable excuse that everyone wishes is were. Yes, you made a mistake. It's best to start by being truthful from the beginning. Your best friend will have to make up her own mind about you and her bf. As will your bf about your relationship. But, you now have someone else to worry about besides all that. Your child. It's time to behave like a responsible adult. It's the right thing to do and in the long run you will be glad that you did.
2006-10-02 16:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by TB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can your best friend be so hooked on him so soon? If he's your EX boyfriend, does your best friend see something you don't? Well, that can't be because you just slept with him 2 months ago- a month after he started dating your best friend. Speaking of which, you can kill the best friend bit because you slept with her man, knowing how hung up she was on him. Best friends don't do that. The time frame you listed is rather shady.. and it suggests ill intent on your part. Unless of course there was a typo in your question and the time frame is off.
Your best friend can do better than both you and him. You most certainly don't seem to care about your current boyfriend at all. How long of a break can you need after 8 months? Your judgement is wack. I don't know why you say you don't want to hurt your best friend when everything you've said indicates that you could less about her or any one other than yourself. If your friend was really your best friend, you would've reminded her of why the guy is your ex.
2006-10-02 16:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not hurting them should have been done the night of the frat party. Its too late now and you really dont have any other choice. Your new bf doesn't deserve it but who cares about your best friend ?? Why was she dating your ex to begin with ? In my world that's taboo.
2006-10-02 16:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jerry! Jerry! JK. You guys are really in for some long talks and soul searching for awhile. If you all want to still be friends in the long run, you MUST get it out in the open and talk about what happened and where you go from here. Hide it now and eventually it will come back to bite you in the ****. Deal with the issue immediately.
2006-10-02 16:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by chris w james 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you be absolutely certain that the child isn't your current boyfriend's? If not, don't say a thing.
If you are really in love with your current mate, you may want to discuss it with him. Be prepared to lose him if he doesn't understand.
I think I would also try to find out why you would put yourself into a situation where you could get into this kind of trap.
Good luck.
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2006-10-02 16:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...... I think that you should tell both of them the truth instead of hiding it because either way in 9 months everybody is going to know. It's going to be hard but for the sake of the baby and your health you should tell them because during pregnancy you can't be stressed out like you are. GOOD LUCK
2006-10-02 16:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by LOnElY GIrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have thought about hurting everyone before you got sloppy drunk and slept with your ex. it is weird that your ex is dating your best friend, but i guess that's not the point now. you're going to have to be honest with everyone and risk losing people that are close to you. the sooner the better. good luck!
2006-10-02 16:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋