its exciting I been meeting guys and talking to them, my quetion is how do I continue to talk to them converstation wise and my self- esteem is real down and I am berley catching up what should I say and do? Thanks so much really helps me.
2006-10-02 09:12:21 · 15 answers · asked by Pretty me :) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ya know I am going through the samething, It is exciting experiencing life again, yet very scarey. I have been married for 11 years. I just take it one day at a time. I find music boost my moods, and just having an open mind. I also find that when you aren't looking for someone then someone finds you. I think we women have a beacon on us when we are searching. So worry about you, and getting to know you again , it is funny how everything else seems to fall into place.
Good luck
2006-10-02 09:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by catzbak1104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different in regards how to get their life and self-esteem back. I'd say, don't rush into new relationship right away. Think for yourself, what makes you happy. Be by yourself a little bit. You are not defined by the guy that's next to you.
2006-10-02 16:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds cliche' but just really be yourself. You don't want to be anything or anyone else. Don't try to change or act a certain way to please a person, which is easy to do when you are feeling down and have self esteem issues. It doesn't last forever. You want them to like you for you, and they will. Remember the old saying, it cant rain all the time!
2006-10-02 16:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by chris w james 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be YOU! Tell yoursel over and over that you deserve the best and will never settle for anything less. This will make you stronger by the day and build your self confidence!! Enjoy your new found freedom! GOOD LUCK to ya!! GaryT
2006-10-02 16:15:03 · answer #4 · answered by gary t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you are going out and meeting new guys. The only way that you are going to keep talking to them is going out as JUST FRIENDS and doing things. Go in a group though that way its not a one on one date sort of thing and it doesn't put you alone with him. Go out and do fun things. Just don't put your self in a bad postion with any of the guys.
2006-10-02 16:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by Devilish Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your having fun meeting new guys just get on with your life forget about your ex & above all when your with a new guy don't mention your ex this will turn him off.Good Luck
2006-10-02 16:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit making it all about you, your discomfort, your insecurities, etc. Make it about them. Compliment them, follow with questions and positive observations. Get them talking about themselves. Ask what they think/their opinion of a hot topic, ask what they would do in a situation, and ask how they feel about an issue. It shows interest in them to do this, and shows respect to listen. You will find yourself feeling more welcome and popular, because people (guys) will feel good about themselves around you. keep in mind to touch on the hot buttons in conversatons. Hot buttons include:
The need to feel important, noticed, acknowledged, powerful, admired, listened to, valued, attractive, saught after, respected, validted, recognized, skilled, talented, correct, etc.
Ask questions to find those buttons, and make positive observations and compliments to push those buttons. This will leave you no time to worry about your own anxiety.......
2006-10-02 16:20:28 · answer #7 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you
threes a saying when people break up there plenty more fish in the sea
carry on doing what you are doing and stay confidant
2006-10-02 16:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by ericson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find sarcasm always works. I know--the lowest form of humor right? But most of the time, it works.
2006-10-02 16:14:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the hurry? give yourself time to heal, mentally and emotionally. life is not all about love and sex, you know. it's about being a good person, finding a good job, helping people, learning, exercising, loving your family....
*hugs* be good to yourself
2006-10-02 16:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by georgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋