Why do so many parents out there look for excuses for their children's behavior? Everything is a cop out. Its not my fault, he has ADHD. Its not my fault, I did not see him hit that girl. Its not my fault. I wasn't even home last weekend.
When did American parents get so lazy?
2006-10-02 09:07:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think the day that women allowed ourselves, and I'm not speaking for everybody. This is just my opinion. However, the day that we said we can do it all, we can be a Mom fulltime, we can work outside of the home fulltime, we can be superMom's! That is the day that to me, the family structure started to disintegrate. Whether people want to agree or not, this is what happened. Yes there are always exceptions, single mom's, father's who are the Mom's and Dad's, divorced mom's etc. However I think that when we spread ourselves so thin, something is going to give, and it is usually the kids. The kids are all there still but nobody has the time nor takes the time to be a responsible parent! It takes that much more energy to which the average parent, doesn't have anymore! It costs so darn much to live daily nowadays that who is falling between the cracks? These kids and parents being parents! I see it every day around here. Everybody has their head in the sand or a cloud, whatever, and just thinks, "it is not my kid" or "it is not my fault." It is sad, but true. How do we change it? How can we make things different? That's what I want to know! We have always been there for our kids, and will continue to be. We also are there for other people's kids as my heart goes out to them! I pray for this world but how do we change it?
2006-10-02 09:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see todays teens were born at about 1990 a little before a little after which means their parents were born in the 70's so how did they get so lazy. I think that happened when the so-called experts decided that the way children were raised was all wrong. Don't spank your child you only teach him violence, Did you ever notice that children who were spanked are not the ones getting into trouble. I did not say beaten or abused I'm saying a swift slap to the seat of the problem. Too many parents put their children into time out in their bedrooms, the bedrooms with their own TV's and video games and all of their toys. Some punishment ! This is how the "experts" want us to discipline our children. So next time your child acts up why don't you do what YOUR mom did and put it to the seat of the problem.
2006-10-02 16:15:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am unsure of who you know that has that kind of response when their child gets out of line. All the parents I know are very involved and discipline their children according to the mistake that has been made. Perhaps, you think we should beat them and throw them in the cellar.
2006-10-02 16:10:33 · answer #3 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the blame game has been going on since the beginning of time or almost since then. Most parents feel guilty that they are not better parents and they are just being defensive because of that.
2006-10-02 16:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by juniper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is never my response to something my children have ever done. And believe me, raising kids wold be abit easier if we could disapline our kids without fear of having the authorities called on us if we spanked them.
2006-10-02 16:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to you in my opinion is to set limits and boundaries. Let that child know who runs the family. If he/she does something that child is not supposed to, put your foot down. Take away like his/her computer, TV, and video game priviliges. You need to show that child who runs the show like I said.
2006-10-02 16:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by aaron_esq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they do not want people to think less of them because of their child's actions, it has to do with denial and acceptance
2006-10-02 16:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by nursenight owl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1980's i believe
2006-10-02 16:09:04 · answer #8 · answered by doyal797357 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋