How would you categorize me?

Question

You see....Ive always wanted to have a very beautiful and intelligent women. And I know recently have a good and kind person who can never say no because she is so kind. But even though I have a girlfriend I dont really want to be with her. Ive known her for 4 years now and I cant go a day without talking to her if even for 5 minutes. She loves me very much. But I really feel like things arent well because even though I care so much about her....I cant truely say I love her. I feel like we should be best friends minus the relationship. I honestly want women that is more attractive and sexual. Someone that is more spontanious and eventful. My GF/BF is just so...boring......let me know what you think of me and my situation...thanks

Answer 1

you sound normal to me

Answer 2

Ok here is the thing - do you think in the long run a attractive/ sexual woman will give what you're looking for in a relationship because that can get boring just as quickly or a woman you want to talk with every day and actually really cares about you - however here is a thought - the only thing in a relationship that really SURVIVES after year longs counter-ship is COMMUNICATION SKILLS - if u don't have that you don't really have anything because fact is after the first butterfly's, etc. everything slows down - attraction etc. and you're left with well....I leave that up to you - Unless you're working HARD on your relationship - anyhow Good Luck. Oh by the way it is very normal what you're going thru and it's a tough call you have to make here but if you're young GO AND HAVE FUN.

Answer 3

I think what you have found is a great friend, perhaps a life long friend, however your sexual needs are not being met and that needs to be adressed.

Our society, as sexually liberal as it may consider itself, still maintains that sexual desire should not be a deciding factor in a relationship - that's bullshit. Its also bullshit that all women who enjoy sex are sluts.

After all, sexual desire is precisely the thing that differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic one. (And I guess that makes women with stronger sex drives more romantic! Its too bad they don't judge us that way!)

If you and your girlfriend have different sex drives this can be extremely irritating (either way, the woman can have the stronger drive as well) and sexual frustration can destroy a relationship.

But before you throw in the towel, just a couple words of caution -

First - guys generally have higher sex drives than women, so it is likely you will encounter this problem again.

Second - I don't know how old you are but looks and passion inevitably fade with time (and her sex drive will peak at 30-35 woohoo!!) If you are looking for something long term there is nothing more appropriate than a woman you can be friends with.

So there are my conflicting views, and only you can decide which most appropriately fits your situation.

Answer 4

If you truly think she's not right then talk to her or let her go. Just remember there may not be your perfect dream girl out there. It sounds like you have very high standards and maybe you need to think in terms of reality. Like what if she's smart and only plain jane cute? What if she's dumb as a rock but the most beautiful girl you've seen? If your main concern is sex why don't you take things into your own hands and get creative with her? If you want eventful think of something exciting to do and take her with. You may find she might enjoy it and want to do things like that more. As for more attractive just remember even the most beautiful woman gets older and beauty fades.

Answer 5

If you are talking marriage here, sexual attraction is a must. It's what carries you through the first couple of rocky years -- until you get good in bed. :-)

If you are talking just dating here, Dude, you're a putz. A girl can't go from bf/gf relationship to "just friends". We are just NOT made that way and to expect her to be that way, is just unfair. If aren't sexually attracted to her, break up, but do it nice -- it's not her fault.

Answer 6

Go for the spontanious one if u break up with ur BF it will ruin ur whole relationship

Answer 7

let that girl know you just want to be friends..it might hurt a lil bit but cant force anything that isnt there anymore

Answer 8

well if you pick the more sexual one she might be a whore and shell end up ripping ur heart out and S*** down ur throat. i would keep the good one bre

Answer 9

just keep using her for the sex until you find someone better

you really needed to ask this?

Answer 10

Honestly?

You don't have a clue about what you want !