I'm a virgin but I've done other stuff with my long-term boyfriend and a friend with benefits, but that's it. So I'm curious.
I have many guy friends who say girls fall for them post-sex, yet they don't even like the girl. It really makes me never want to have sex to be honest. Is it possible to not have feelings for the guy?
2006-10-02 09:01:54 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, it is possible. The guys who think girls fall for them after sex have big egos. Or either the girls are desperate for love, or were already in love with them & just hadn't told them.
2006-10-02 09:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to wait until you find someone that cares for you the way you care for them. Sex is just a side benefit of two people that love each other. There are once night stands but I personally dont think your first time should be a one night stand.
As for your friends saying that girls fall for them after sex, yes I can see that happening. Heres a question to ask yourself though. Why are they having sex at all if they dont care for each other? Take it slow. Great sex, like marriage, depends on being friends first. If everyone followed this simple advice the divirce rate wouldnt be so high.
2006-10-02 09:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by chris w james 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep! Mainly because women show more emotion towards sex then men. Men can just have sex and never feel anything when they are doing it. But women we tend to put a lot of feeling into sex and we get all sprung ex-specially when the penis is good. But there are a few women that can have sex with a guy and not get crazy in love with them but the majority of women fall hard.
2006-10-02 09:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to have sex and not love the guy. But only with guys you wouldn't want to have as a bf. Friends with benefits is a good example. If you already like a guy then sleeping with him does make for stronger feelings.
2006-10-02 09:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but why have sex if you are not ready? Some people enjoy the act of sex with out emotional attachment, you may not be one of those people, you may need to wait and find someone who has deeper feeling for you than sexual desires. Not everyone has the same needs, take some time and figure out what you think you need.
2006-10-02 09:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a man will have sex with a girl he does not have feelings for because he is simply after the pleasure. a girl will also do the same thing for the same reasons.
however, i do not want to come out as offensive to anyone but men are known to be more shallow than girls which is why they are after the pleasure most of the time. most girls will only have sex with a guy if they like them or are attracted to them. but there are girls who do not have feelings for a man but still have sex with them.
2006-10-02 09:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's very hard not to have feelings for a guy you've had sex with.
i'll tell you why.
girls are very emotion creatures. this is not every girl, but most girls.
we are emotionally centered and anything we do physically, registers emotionally. we feel about everything and anything. sex is such a special thing that connects you to a person. it's supposed to be a physical, emotional, and mental experience. we become attached to someone that we've done physical things with.
i know i personally couldn't have sex with a guy and not feel anything. i almost wish i could. but i know how i'm built and i know that it's not possible for me to do. so, i'm saving myself for marriage, hopefully.
2006-10-02 09:07:49 · answer #7 · answered by wendydarling128 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You will fall for him unless you work really hard at hating him.
I think you should avoid having sex with anyone unless you already love him or want to love him. Even more important, make sure he loves you.
2006-10-02 09:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex dont make u love a person ,the person do ,,,,sex has nothing to do with the way you feel ,,,you keep it for the person you marry ,and you will have a truly loving relationship .dont let people treat you cheap you are worth more than that ,,,be proud of yourself ,not many can be ,,,well done you .
2006-10-02 09:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by whitecloud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP!!! because if you're in love it's not just 'sex'... and if that guy isn't in love with you it's just sex.... just think like a guy!! they do it all the time and the girls who have sex think this 'connection' is love but it's just sex! so wait - it's not worth it and if you're having fun doing what you're doing.. you won't get hurt!
2006-10-02 09:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by thenakats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋