Ive been talking to this guy since almost april, thru text messaging on my phone, no other way, we used to fight alot, and then stopped talking for awhile, but r talking again now. he has lately become a bit posessive, and all my friends dont like it, i get that, but i like talking to him, and i dont know if this is a healthy relationship. weve never met, and i dont know if we will ,but should i continue talking to him or listen to my friends and drop it all together?
2006-10-02 08:27:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your friends are only looking out for you, if they are seeing warning signs you should probably think about it, often those around us can see things we can't because we are to close to the situation. I would take my friends advice, just because you like talking to him isn't reason enough to allow some one to be controlling.
2006-10-02 08:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't see how anything good can come from this. What is it you hope will happen? If the only way you talk is through text messaging, you have never met, yet he is possessive and used to fight with you..... Why is it you're interested? All these things that you may see as quirky now will be multiplied by 100 if you ever pursue a real relationship with this guy.
2006-10-02 15:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by amdstreit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole situation is a bit odd to me. You've been dating a guy only through text messages and he is posessive. I don't believe this is a relatioship at all. That sounds like some teenager stuff right there. He may be a mad man for all you know
In all! commucation is the key to any relationship, mostly face to face. Truly! I don't see how you see this as an relationship. Follow your own heart and use your head. Good Luck Shawty!
2006-10-02 15:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by dempseyville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the stereotypical virtual relationship so often found in chat rooms, except it's with text messaging. You have no relationship with a real person until you meet, spend some time and be honest with each other. The fact that he's already being possessive (a bit or a gigabite for all I care), should show you how he would be in person, in reality, in front of you. It's weird to be possessive to words on a phone screen--imagine him in your face! You aren't even talking to him--you're texting him--you could trip over him in a gay bar and not even know it's him. Unless, of course you had his picture. But how would you be certain it's really him? It could be a wallet model.
2006-10-02 15:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should drop him because if he's being posessive over you and is showing signs of aggression or telling you what you can and can't do then that shows you that he is a controlling person and that is not good. I think you should stop talking to him and avoid being hurt in the future and if you decide to keep talking to him just be careful and don't let him control your every move ok. good luck!
2006-10-02 15:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by la_reina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop it. You have to trust your friends when they care for you enough to tell you someone is not good for you. And only text messages since April?? Just drop it, if he's possessive now you're in for a world of hurt if you get involved with him.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 15:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by vicvic* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop It ! If he is already possesive and you two have just been fighting just through text messages, this realtionship is headed no where. In most cases when a guy starts out being possesive, they end up being controlling and somewhat abusive. I would stear clear.
2006-10-02 15:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by TRISHTHEDISH76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are making a mistake. Being possessive is a major red flag. It is one of the very first signs of an abuser. If your friends don't like him then they very likely are seeing things that you probably aren't because of the emotions of trying to make it work.
Listen to your friends, they are called friends for a reason.
Attached below is a link to other abuse warning signs.
2006-10-02 15:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by MnM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all this guy is not even your boyfriend and already is trying to be possesive.Guys like that end up being ***** when you actually meet them and carry on a relationship.This guy is not the on for you, i don't think you want a guy that tells you what and not to do, right?
Make the right decision, don't decide out your ***!!!!
2006-10-02 15:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ant Giron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How is he making you feel? If it's a concern to you, drop him and listen to your friends. Personally - it sounds like he's a bit controlling. My suggestion is to be cautious.
2006-10-02 15:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Ma'êšeeonáhe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋