I'm happpily married, with no children. I've noticed that american girls have their kids when they're in their 20's... Where I was raised is normal to wait longer. My husband (american) says that he wants to wait 2 more years or so, but I've thought at least 5 would be OK. He loves kids... his eyes shine when he sees one. We're both 27. How long should we wait?
2006-10-02 08:27:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
sovereign... I don't NEED to ask answers... I know exactly what's best for us but it's interesting and constructive to hear someone else's opinion about the topic.
2006-10-02 09:35:42 · update #1
Well, first off, don't worry about what other women do. A lot of other women in America are waiting longer too. I think it's great you both agree to wait a little bit b/c it gives you a chance to enjoy being married first and do stuff you want. I am in a similar situation to you since I'm 27 too and we have decided to wait 3-4 yrs. in order to be as prepared as possible for having children (i.e.financially, emotionally, maritally, etc.). You are both young, there's no need to rush but this is really between you and your husband. We both love kids too and we get sappy over them but we think it's better to wait a little first. I wish you and your husband the best.
2006-10-02 08:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best time is when you are both ready. If he says 2 and you say 5 why not meet in the middle and have one 3 years down the line. I also think that no matter how much you prepare yourself, you can never be ready. I think the best advice is to have a baby when you both feel that you are financially stable, and are content with your relationship together. Alot of people think by having a baby it will make there relationship stronger. Dont be fooled. Dont wait too long either, cos you do still want to have fun with your children.
2006-10-02 08:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've it's best to have children before the age of 35, after which point it can be considered a "high-risk" pregnancy because of the mother's age. Women who give birth after this point run the increased risk of problems with the pregnancy and issues with the baby, such as Down's Syndrome. However, every woman is different and you really should ask your gynecologist what he/she suggests for you. Also take into consideration where you are in your life and if now or later would be better based on your circumstances.
Don't buy into any myths about it being better to be a younger parent. I have a very young parent and a much older parent - both were wonderful and it wasn't a drain on either of them. Actually - the older parent was really much more physically active and playful now that I think about it. And that's saying something - I'm one of a set of twins!
2006-10-02 08:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by fruitnroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the fact that you should wait - but I think you are both at an age in which having children would be great for you. I had my last two at 30 and 31 and they are the best things in life! I would not wait past age 30 to start trying.
2006-10-02 08:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This should be between you and your husband. The public can't help you decide when to have a child. You both have to agree to be ready for a child. After all you are married to each other, righ?
But since you are a woman you will be pressed for time with your biological clock if you are already in your thirties. In this case you might want to encourage your husband about the urgency.
You guys need to do alot of talking about this committment. Are you both ready for a child to come into your lives soon?
2006-10-02 08:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 23, my husband is 29. It was important to him to at least start on a kid before he was 30. We have been married 3 years, and both want (and can support) a baby. How long you wait is entirely up to you. Waiting never hurt anything.
2006-10-02 09:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having children changes your life, so you should feel you are ready. You want to have had your life first.
But the longer you wait, the older you are as a parent (interact differently with the child) and it becomes less safe medically for various reasons.
2006-10-02 08:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum and dad were 30 had travelled the world and had careers they loved when they had my sisters and I and I think their lifestyles and outlook were reflected in their parenting.
Following their lead I wouldn't consider having children before I'd lived enough to wholly know myself.
Financial stability is important but an inspirational perspective on life can't be bought only gained through life experience and is so much more special to anothers life.
2006-10-02 08:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by lisalushlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant with number two at 27 and had a 3 year old. I think now is the time to have them. You do not want to be to old when they graduate from high school. Have them early and then you can enjoy them.
2006-10-02 08:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by dr's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that you are at the right age to begin having children. Because you want to still be young while having children and it all the depends on how much children you are intending on having.
Are you financially ready? Are you ready? these are the things that both you and your husband should think about. (Good Luck)!!!!
2006-10-02 08:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋