how can i help my child go through puberty?

Answer 1

Boys and girls can see these changes happening to each other - in some cases, they can smell them. It's important to talk to your child about how bodies change - sooner, rather than later.

Be prepared to talk to a girl about the expected events of puberty, including menstruation, when you see the first signs of breast development, or earlier if she seems ready or has questions. A boy should know about normal penile development, erections, and nocturnal emissions before age 12 - sooner, if he's an early developer. And it's also important to talk to your child about what's happening to members of the opposite sex.

It's best not to have "The Talk" but rather a series of talks, ideally beginning when your child is young and starting to ask questions about body parts. Each time you talk, offer more and more detail, depending upon your child's maturity level and interest in the topic.

And, if your child has a question, answer it right away. If you feel uncomfortable or uncertain about having these discussions with your child, ask your child's doctor for advice.

Answer 2

The library! Get some really good books.. Open up dialog. Be there for your child to talk to about changes. Confusion, frustrations and feeling like they just have outgrown life.


My number 1 recommend is "the period book"

And

The New Speaking of Sex: What your children need to know and when they need to know it.

The Subtitle of this books sums it up nicely. Meg Hickling gently dispels misconceptions and unhealthy beliefs about sex by telling humorous stories from over 25 years of experience working with children, families, teachers and other professionals. She deleivers no-nonsense facts in a humourus yet 'scientific' manner. She touches on the physical, intellecutal, emotional, and spiritual aspects of sexuality - a "whole" person approach to sex.

Answer 3

Please let me know when you have the answer!!!!
My oldest is going through it now, and boy have we been on a roller coaster ride!!!
I don't know that there is anything that you can do other than be supportive, try and remember what it was like when you went through it and talk with her as much as she wants.
This is a rite of passage that she must face, and as a parent it has been the most difficult thing I have ever had to deal with. When they are little, their needs are so basic. You know what to do when they fall down- You pick them up and kiss their owies. You can't kiss these kind of owies away, so all you can do is be supportive.
Let her know that you are here, and won't judge her. Tell her that you have been through this also and that you remember how hard it was.

Answer 4

It looks like everyone has been giving you some good answers so far. Just let your child know you'll be there for him/her, no matter what. And grow thicker skin...this stage is 10 times worse than the terrible two's!!! I've been through it 6 times so I know what it's like---makes the people on the Survivor show look like wimps!! Good luck to you both.

Answer 5

be there for support, that's really all you can do. just be sure you don't smother him/her with mushy parent stuff. all they need right now is support and reassurance from you.... other than that this is kind of their time to grow and learn who they are.... don't be shocked if they won't open up to you entirely.... they're beginning to understand that they're individuals and he/she is going to want to play with the idea of being an adult. to keep a close relationship, keep up with the surprises, like waking them up in the middle of the night to watch the full moon and eat ice-cream on the roof, or watch a movie that you think will help.... not documentaries, more like yellow submarine, or movies that will make them forget their problems.... just be supportive.

Answer 6

If they ask a question about what is changing then you could talk to them about it and reassure them that what they are going through is normal.

Answer 7

You can help her give her advice teach her how to shop for pads and stuff let her know that this is showing that she is becoming a youn lady let her know your there for her but other then that you cant do anything for her she haas to do the rest herself but let her know shes not alone !!!!!!

Answer 8

You can't, they have to go through it on their own (perhaps you are meaning to ask a different question with more detail?)

Answer 9

I told my daughters that their bodies were going to change, I told them things that would happen and that they asked. If it is your son your husband needs to talk with him.