the end of my rope...i do dicipline her regularly...and its getting me nowhere! any suggestions...and no sarcasm please...i am a good mom and i dont want to hear any bullshit!
2006-10-02 07:59:10 · 10 answers · asked by nikki m 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I learned the most wonderful trick last week on how to cut back on the "No's" with my twins, 2 also.
Give them a choice.
Instead of asking: "Will you please pick up your toys?"
Ask: "Do you want to pick up the blocks or the trucks?"
Ask:" Do you want milk or juice?"
Ask: "Do you want to sleep with the red blanket or the blue blanket?" (instead of saying 'it's bed time).
And they actually choose one and do it!
It's a miracle!
Be very specific. Doing this teaches them to be more independent. And they enjoy feeling like they have a little control in their little lives.
Since I started applying this tactic I hear "no!" like maybe 10 times a day instead of 50!
They are still doing what they are told this way and are happy to do it!
2006-10-02 09:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lesley C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First rule of parenting... Never, under any circumstances, teach your child the word "no" until they are at least ten...
Seriously, don't phase what you want your child to do in the form of a question... Remind your child that your "instruction" was not a multiple choice question... Repeat yourself only once!... Then there is a a price to pay... They will soon learn from that...
Consistency is the key...
P.S. That's why they are called the terrible twos...
2006-10-02 15:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by deakjone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal for a toddler. They are just testing out the power of their words. I would keep about your business as if you didn't hear it. I don't think it is a discipline problem as much as it is a kid just testing out a new word. Once she find that it has no power over you she will probably move on.
2006-10-02 17:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by wendysorangeblossoms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds just like my 2 year old daughter. I have tried to limit my use of the word no. I try to explain why she can't do something and what would happen if she did. I think it is all about their development.
2006-10-02 15:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Reaper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep disciplining your daughter, and even pretend to ignore her for a while. She'll gradually stop misbehaving. For example, she may not want to be fed. So, don't feed her and then she'll understand how it will be life, and she'll come around. If you tried other methods and they didn't work, try this. Good luck!
2006-10-02 15:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by desigal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most toddlers like to say No. It gives them the feeling that they have control over something, try ignoring her, it should help.
2006-10-02 16:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RElax...she's 2...NO is a basic in my son's language. There's nothing you can do about it until thy learn another word...You can't discipline a child because its the only word they know.
2006-10-02 15:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HA HA ! im right there with ya!
is she around 2?
Mine is! and its his favorite word! or swatting at the air if he doesnt like something, I do time outs but does that really help...Most of the time...no...
SORRY!
2006-10-02 15:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says "no" then just say "yes" afterwards (unless she really means "no" such as "No I don't want a drink"). If she continues to say no after you say yes then spank her. To me, that would be considered back-talk if she says "no" after you tell her yes.
2006-10-02 15:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she two? try to ignore her there is not much you can do
2006-10-02 15:02:36 · answer #10 · answered by mymail55350 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋