even though you love your kids all the same is there one that seems to know how to push your buttons more than the other,my son seems to want to argue alot lately, hes 12 but he has always been hard to handle. he is also the middle child and the only boy. could there be something to that?
2006-10-02 07:52:58 · 7 answers · asked by supermomma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Could just be temperment.
The raw materials, as it were, of personality come from genes. How much energy you have, how people-oriented you are, whether you go along or go your own way, and other things.
Is it possible that he's the kid who most resembles you? I've often heard that that's what pushes a parent's buttons best.
Of course, the opposite could also be true -- if his basic personality type is most unlike yours, that makes it harder to cope, since you'd find it hard to understand him.
As long as he's not a bad person, try not to worry about it too much. He's just being what he is. (But get ready for a rocky ride, as he's entering a Really Interesting time of life.)
2006-10-02 09:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Try changing the way in which you respond to him - some of the time will work as it will be almost impossible to avoid all of the times! Throw him a couple of curve balls and he will start to see that he is being difficult. Also, maybe he is having a hard time being taken seriously with his sisters, his age, etc.? Let him be right a few times and start reinforcing respect for him from his sisters. Show him a little more interest from you when he brings up valid points - i.e., admit when you may be wrong about something, or admit that he may have a better idea. He is just trying to be a man - in charge (at least in his mind). If you don't start changing the way that you interact with him now, you will have a much more difficult time down the road!
Good luck!
2006-10-02 15:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by joycaro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is 10 and also the middle child and she seems to be the one that I find myself getting onto more. She is so stubborn and seems to always be arguing with her older sister and little brother. I just pray that God will give me the strength to deal with her daily. I love her don't get me wrong, i love her just as much as the other two but man can she push my buttons! Good luck and if need to talk just email me
2006-10-02 15:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by ilove_arbonne3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just love your children the best you know how & for whom they are. Be thankful for such little inconveniences as 'arguing' - there are many parents out there that only can wish for simplicity in their lives when raising a child. I have a daughter who is Bipolar with many Schitzophrenic symptoms & even I find this to be easier to handle then the parent with a child in a vegetative state.
2006-10-02 15:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe the order in which your child is born does have some thing to do with how they behave. My theory on children is if what you are doing is not working try some thing different. If you have been having arguments with him stop. when he starts yelling look at him like he came from another planet and do not say anything. He will stop yelling sooner or later then you can ask him if he feels better then say hum now would you like to talk about it? Just keep trying different things even humor. What ever works !!!!!! Best of luck
2006-10-02 14:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by rollerbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 is a tough age. Hang in there.
2006-10-02 14:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kabu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK HES VERY NORMAL. DONT WORRY IF THERES SOMETHING DEEPER INVOLVED
2006-10-02 15:32:52 · answer #7 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋