My daughter father and I have decided to go our seperate ways after 12 yrs.The thing is when our 10 yr old call the new gf's house she sits the phone down and don't tell him.I'll call back and she will say he asleep.When I can here him playing with her 3 boys in the backround.When I told him about this the 1st time he said he could'nt see her doing this.I told him me 12 yrs and her 2 mths why would I lie.She continues to do it so now I tell our 10 yr old we can't call daddy's gf house anymore.I told him if you want to talk to her go to our old house and call her.It's hard 4 me 2 get a handle on the situation because I moved out of town back 2 DC,and he's in Va.Beach.Any suggestions.I'm 30 and her dad is 31 and his new gf is like 35 so you would think she knows better.My daughter should be #1 at this point.If I'm wrong let me know.But I'm just tired of seeing her hurt especially when she knows her dad plays with the new gf 3 boys!Please help!!!!!!!!
2006-10-02 07:46:14 · 6 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think he's in denial... you are doing the right thing. At some point he will come around, it's just a shame that the girls will have to suffer in the mean time.
2006-10-02 07:50:36 · answer #1 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's hard... Tell him to look at the phone bill, he will see where you called and how long the phone was off the hook. Have your daughter tell ask him why he does not pick up the phone when she calls to talk to him... I know you should not put the kids in the middle, but that poor little girl does not need to hear her daddy playing in the background with her future step-brothers and feel like her daddy does not want to talk to her... That is just hurtful to her and he should be willing to make that different... Any time she wants to talk to her daddy, you should make the call in the future to make sure he gets on the phone before you let her get on the phone...
2006-10-02 07:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men sometimes do that to their kids when ever they get a new woman in their life and it is wrong for them to do that to their kids. Since you have told him about it once and he have not done anything about it at all,you should go to the child support office on him.I guest he is not supporting her if he is letting her do that to you and your daghter.If so,you need to let them know what has been going on.No child deserves that done to them.It's like he does not care any more.Now it is time to put your foot down,cause if you don't he will always do that to your daughter.She deserves her father in her life,cause she did not ask to come here.He needs to step up to the plate and take care of his business with his daughter.In the mean time,you have to talk to your daughter and let her know it's not her fault at all and that you LOVE her and you will always be there for her no matter what the situation is.Now your daughter will need you more than ever.So just spend as much time with her as you can and do more things with her than you would usually do to try to keep the situation off of her mind.I know it is not an east task,but do your best.The reason why it wont be easy,is cause when ever she has any free time to herself she will think about.So try your best at trying to be mother and father.Don't think that you are the only woman that done went through something like that.Try not to let it get you and your daughter down,,just do what ever it takes to keep your daughter mind on better things and let her know in so many words that it is not the end,it's just a time to see that life will and can be better.Please do me a favor by droping down to your knees,cry out and pray to the LORD.Then let go and give it to GOD.Once you pray about it,don't worry your nerves about it and let the LORD handle the situation for you and you will see in do time what the LORD can do for you and your daughter.It will work out in the both of you favor.Just trust in the LORD and have strong FAITH.Just be there for your daughter in every way that you can and everything will be alright.In the time,watch how you and your daughter will over come it all. I will be praying for you and your daughter to over come this situation,the both of you are in my prayers.So good luck and GOD Bless.
2006-10-02 08:41:52 · answer #3 · answered by mrs.pierre3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww! You did the right thing. Your daughter should be number one no matter what and you need to and are doing everything possible to make your daughter happy. Keep it up! You sound like reasonable, mature, smart woman. Keep on doing what you are and let him know how his actions is crushing his little girls heart!
Good luck and keep up the great effort!
2006-10-02 07:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your ex have a cell phone? Tell him to get a cell phone and just call that number from now on. If stuff starts happening to his cell phone or his gf starts turning off his cell and junk; that should be your proof that she's trifling...
2006-10-02 07:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by E. Gads 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is getting the message and she is getting the blame.
2006-10-02 07:51:38 · answer #6 · answered by Rather be dead than red... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋