I'm 16, and im really interested in this guy. Ive gotten to know him a bit and so far so good. He asked me out on a date and I told him i was bit hesitant for several reasons. As he said I like him but im afraid to like him. my parents arent a walk in the park and the history of the boys being players in my school (84%girls) is making me hold back. I asked my mom (she's the lighter of the two) if i could possibly go out with him. and she gave me a direct no. She wants to do the whole meeting him, grilling him, and giving me a yes or no. I dont want to put him in that situation and wish they would just ease of on the leash. Im very responsible, Christian, have my priorities in check and still im in this freaking leash. How can i make my parents understand that i'm not a baby any more and its ok for me to start dating?
2006-10-02 07:42:28 · 10 answers · asked by La Princesa 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe after u'll lose ur virginity b4 marriage u will know y your parents are so concerned. and when that guy loses his interest in you... u don't wanna know..
2006-10-02 07:47:58 · answer #1 · answered by James Blond 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, as you said you are very responsable and a christian and have your act together. Unfortunately boys can sometimes be on a different page. I bet if you asked your parents together if perhaps you and this guy can just go get some ice cream or just get a pizza and then came straight home, they might give in. Also try going on a group date, that was the rule in my house till I was 18. My dad said under no circumstance was I to ever be alone with a boy, so I could only be with him in a group setting. That might ease your parents as well. You should definately talk to your parents on them grilling the boy too. Mention that perhaps they should just ask him where you guys are going and ask that he have you in the house at a certain hour.
2006-10-02 14:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by lpogue2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you have mentioned, you are a christian,research the meaning and you will find that your parents are only trying to preserve your good name,as a christian you are ten times a notch above the rest and have a very high standard to keep.Our young people today are so loose that it is in your best interest to follow what the scriptures in the bible have given as examples ,look at the lives of RUTH and Dina they are examples of women that lived very distinct lives even though they were in the same christian upbringings,for your protection follow the teachings of your parents other than the love of God they are the only persons that really care for you,be wise.
2006-10-02 15:22:15 · answer #3 · answered by delmy d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents still treat me like a child when it comes to dating also. Instead of saying no (since they can't because i'm 18) they make it seem like it's all a joke and it's stupid and unimportant. You should just tell them that you're responsible but they won't be able to see that for themselves until they give you a chance. YOU have good judgment and perhaps it's time for you to make your own decisions and learn from those mistakes. And, if they're afraid of you getting hurt.. it's better for you to cry like a baby over your first love when you're young than when you're 30
2006-10-02 14:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by ashwee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried the not a date routine? Go out with a group that also includes him. Let your parents meet him in the group as "one of your friends". I used the same ploy when I was your age and my kids used it on me. Your parents will still know, (they probably used it on their parents) but safety in numbers will make them feel better about it.
2006-10-02 14:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by risquefunforu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry dear u are still a baby under your parent and they are tryin to do is protect u from the guy 80% of your girls in the school said no. what king of girl do want to be? stay off nd find somebody else or face your study. your time is comin and i want u to say sorry to your mum. plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
2006-10-02 14:48:36 · answer #6 · answered by demoheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a guy so this is from my perspective. If I really like a girl then I would go and meet her parents if thats what her parents wanted. If this guy you like won't do that for you then he doesn't really like you.
2006-10-02 14:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by congoman365 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In their eyes, you are still a baby. When you are 18, then and only then can you make adult decisions for yourself. But for now, respect your parents' wishes--no means no.
2006-10-02 14:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough question.. when you go off to college your gonna make many boys/girls very happy with the freaky things that are pent up in you. if your parents ever find out they're gonna wish that they were more lax with you in highschool
2006-10-02 14:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always obey your parents
2006-10-02 14:45:36 · answer #10 · answered by hermosa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋