What should I do? Do I leave her for a couple of days, or apologise for something I'm not sure I should?

Question

Me and my girlfriend were talking today, and we've been going out about a year. We're 18. It came up that she had run away when she was younger, and I sypathetically said 'oh, that must have been bad, where did you go (as in where)?". She said, 'How dare you ask me that question?", I said "What, it was just a casual question?", she then replied "It's hardly a casual question", then she just stormed off without saying anything"

What do I do? I feel like I should apologise, but ideally just want to leave it, but won't that make things worse, as I don't really feel what I should be sorry for. Should I just apologise, or just leave it a couple of days and see if she calls me (she should eventually), what should I say?

Answer 1

I think that maybe, if it means that much to you, you should just apologize to her saying something like "I didn't realize that it had hurt you in some way or another. When I asked the question I meant it as ______, and was not in any way wanting to bring back pain for you" etc etc. It's better than letting her stew and at least then you're not apologizing for what you said but more of a for what she could've taken it as

Answer 2

Sounds to me that you were just asking a simple question. But she felt offended by it because of the things she was going through when she ran away. I would say, "apologize" and ask her, what was going on that made you decide to run away? Make it seem like you care about what she went through. Maybe she would forgive you, and realize that you didn't mean to ask the question to be offensive or disrespectful. Oh, and buy some flowers to show her you really do care. Women like flowers......lol. Good luck.

Answer 3

you didn't do anything wrong, you probably just hit a nerve with that question for some reason that brought out emotions that she mis directed at you. She probably feels stupid about it now ( unless she's crazy and actually thinks you did something wrong) Call her in a day, talk to her. If she's still being crazy about it, then leave it alone and wait for her to come around to you.

Answer 4

You have nothing to apologize for. She had no reason to tear into you like she did. Leave her alone for a few days, and sse what happens. If this happens again, I'd seriously question this girl's emotional stability.

Answer 5

Simply explain that you didn't mean it in an offenisve way. You were just trying to understand the whole thing. Maybe something not so good happened when she ranaway. And if she is not ready to talk about that, then let her be about it. She will talk to you about it when she is ready.

Answer 6

I don't see what you did wrong, and it doesn't sound like you do either. I'd call her and say that you're sorry you upset her, but that you are concerned about her and want to know everything about her, about her past, and her present, so that you can build a stable future together.

Answer 7

I dont see why you have to apologize, just talk to her and tell her you didnt mean anything wrong by your question if she told you she ran away you though it was ok to ask where did she go unless she is hiding something she doesnt want you to know, but no need to apologize though you didnt do anything wrong. good luck!

Answer 8

You shouldn't have to apologize for something that you clearly did not do. It was the flow of the conversation...and it is common to ask "where did you go". I am even remotely curious to where she went when she ran away.

Answer 9

it is a woman's thing just leave her alone for a couple of days and then look for her but don't ever mention that again

and no u don't have to apologize

Answer 10

maybe she is ashamed of where she went that is just a common ?? any one would ask i would tell her at first you meant no harm in what you asked you was just curious. and if she still mad leave for a couple of days and see what happens.