The man who did the frist time has since passed away :( , The other person i would ask has seprated himself from the family at his own choice , an i just dont know what to do , My Husband & I are have a re-new of Vows an i want someone to walk me down the isel again .. Who else could i ask ?? Help :( My 1 very close male friend has left the state , so i cant ask him .. Any ideas Anyone ?? .. OH rude answers will be reported .. i really need ideas .. help !!!!!
2006-10-02 07:33:01 · 23 answers · asked by lilredhead 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
When my husband and I had our Traditional Wedding, both our parents walked us down the aisle.
When we had our renewal my mom walked me down because my father has since passed away.
It is totally up to you.
If I hadn't had both of my parents I would have considered having my sister walk me.
2006-10-02 09:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by gina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, congratulations on your upcoming vow renewal. We do wedding vow renewals here in Hawaii almost every day, this is very common.
Technically, your parents would not walk you down the isle again. The symbolism of walking you down the isle and giving you away was that you were "leaving" their family and starting your own family with your new husband. Now, you are part of your husband, you two are one. If you have someone walk you down the isle again, you are symbolizing that you are not one, you are not connected with your husband, almost as if the first marriage didnt happen.
For vow renewals, it is customary for the husband and wife to walk down the isle together, if you have other people participating in the vow renewal, they would walk down the isle in front of both of you, just as they did in the wedding.
You dont want to symbolize a division between you, you want to symbolize a strengthening and renewing of the marriage that is already there.
2006-10-02 07:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by Paradise Weddings & Travel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have a man walk you down the aisle. You can have:
Your mom
Another close female (aunt, friend, etc).
A son or daughter (if you have one)
A Grandparent (if one is alive)
Just think about someone that is close to you... Period. It does not have to be a man and it doesn't have to be an older person either. I've seen all sorts of things at weddings. It's about having someone special give you away.
Also, you don' thave to have someone walk you down the aisle. I know you said you wanted someone to, but you don't have to. Especially at a vow renewal. I have seen it without anyone walking the woman down the aisle.
2006-10-02 07:47:54 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just for the record, you can't report people for being rude. It's not nice, but it's not against the rules.
The tradition comes from when the "ownership" of the woman passes from the father to the husband. Considering that you have been married for a while, it seems your husband is technically the right person to "give you away".
I might suggest your mother, or perhaps one of your children. Especially considering where you are in your life, I don't think it necessarily needs to be an adult male. It should be someone who has an important place in your life.
2006-10-02 07:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The person walking you down the isle doesn't have to be male. If you are still close to your mom, I'd suggest that. Or if you have other close female friends. You could also always walk down the isle with your husband too, since you are already married.
2006-10-02 07:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest the person that you feel close to at this time. My Godmother walked me down the aisle. It doesn't have to be a male it can be a close girlfriend, your mother or even your children if you have any. When choosing step out of the traditional box and go with someone who is near and dear to your heart.
2006-10-02 07:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by KEA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to suggest a best friend....And, who says it has to be a man. Maybe your Mom or a Sister.
When my husband and I redid our vows, we walked together down the aisle. Everyone said how wonderful and symbolic it was of walking through life together. Anyways, hope this gives you some food for thought...good food, that is.
2006-10-02 07:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by KoKo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHat are your options? Your mom can, or someone from your husbands side of the family, Your best friend. Anyone can walk you down the aisle. Anyone that supports your marriage and is happy to "give you" to your hubby again.
2006-10-02 07:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people renewing thier vow actually dont have anyone walk them down the aisle
2006-10-02 07:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by ♥RN♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not walk down with your husband - don't have anyone give you away. And start the ceremony as both of you reach the head of the church / temple/ hall / priest / bishop (etc.). That way you won't need any kind of wedding party either.
2006-10-02 07:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋