My boyfriend has secretive behavior?

Question

I have a boyfriend of 6 months that I only see once a week. About a month ago I noticed that he would say he's going out with the guys and I'd hear from him the next day. No goodnight, no checking to see if I'm alright. I started getting suspicious and I started calling when he said he's out. His cell would be off. This has happened like 5 times. I asked him if I was seeing him enough and if I wasn't then I'd understand if he wanted to see someone else. He went on and on about how he's a one woman guy and he doesn't like to be questioned because he's not a cheater. When he'd be missing until the next day his excuses started with he fell asleep, then his cell is acting up and now (this happened last week) its he fell asleep again. It's obvious that he's hiding something but he swears that he's not. I asked him why are the times when you're out with friends, the exact times that your phone is acting up? Could he be telling the truuth and it all be a coincidence?

Answer 1

A very wise person once said, "If it walks like a skunk and smells like a skunk......it's probably a skunk. " Yea....he's cheating on you. He's strung you along for the past 6 months with his lame excuses and bold faced lies, don't let another month pass by. Don't be so available! Maybe YOUR cell should all of a sudden start 'acting up'.

Answer 2

I think you are already on to his behavior honey. I mean, I know everyone, or at least most people want to give the benefit of the doubt to their signifigant other but sometimes you just have to realistically analyze the facts that are right in front of your face and go from there. I mean, how many times can you "fall asleep" and your phone is conveniently off? You don't need that- and if he can not even be man enough to tell you the truth or be straight about what he wants in his life right now then he needs to grow up and tell him to holla back when he's a man- MAYBE you'll still be available.

Answer 3

sounds like you are asking the right questions. but i think something funny is happening here. theres always an excuse or a reason because of this or that. thats the way it seems to me. i've been there girl and i know it hurts. what did he say after you asked about the phone acting up? sounds like he may be seeing someone else. why is it that you only see eachother once a week.

Answer 4

It's time to move on - without a doubt! The fact that you have any questions at all is enough! It's more about your instincts - listen to them. Something IS up...and his lame excuses set off your alarm, so don't hang around and wait to find out that he is married, or seeing someone else. You'll be happier in the long run. Besides, if he was crazy about you - he would jump through hoops to see you more than once a week.

Good luck.

Answer 5

If your bat signal is going off, listen to it. Yes, he's acting like a guy who's cheating. Do you need proof or is his lying enough? Don't waste your time hoping to be wrong when its obvious your not. Staying out all night indicates he was in a bed SOMEWHERE. A guy who drinks and falls asleep all over town would not be my first choice in a mate and surely not yours even if he IS telling the truth. Sorry. Find an honest, grown up man. Live and learn. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

If you only see him once per week, then I'm assuming this is a long distance relationship. If it's not, then something is definetly wrong. Most people who are dating, see each other a few times per week. They call each other if something good or bad happens, etc. After 6 months I would think you'd be more serious than casual dating. It's probably time to move on.

Answer 7

You just described my ex-girlfriend to a T.

She would come see me every Sunday for dinner and sex and then go home. I'd call her at various times and she always had a reason for not coming to see once she told me she went home early to spend some time with her kids.

Funny thing was her mom told me earlier she hadn't been home that night. Hmmmmm. (always get on their family's good side). Then again i should be suspiscious of a girl saying she's falling in love with me after just knowing me for two weeks.

I've been in exactly the same situation you are i advise you to do what i did.

Walk away.

You got what you wanted,
But you can't help but think of me.
All the things you wanted,
all the things you got for free.
One thing to remember
Is that I have feelings, too.
I surely would have closed my eyes
If I had known the real you.

'Cuz I'm walking away from,
Walking away from things in my own past.
Walking away from,
Walking away from things that just won't last.
And I'm walking away from,
Walking away from things that move too fast.

Answer 8

This sounds exactly like my best friend's ex-boyfriend. Their relationship ended when she found out that he got some other girl pregnant. I am sure that something is going on, but even if it isn't, do you really want a relationship with someone you only see once a week and who doesn't even call to tell you goodnight? You deserve someone much better!

Answer 9

Whether he's telling the truth or not doesn't matter, it's clear you don't trust him. That's the problem you 2 need to work on. Maybe he just likes his independance and doesn't want to feel trapped, maybe he has a hobbie that he thinks you'll think is dorky... or maybe he's cheating on you. Either way, if you keep acting suspicious, it's going to push him farther away

Answer 10

I'm going through the same thing. We both know, cause our gut is telling us, we just want to hear someone else say it to justify it. If a man really likes you, you will know. He won't put you through all types of BS. We know relationships aren't always going to be peaches and cream, but before you invest anymore time...get out! The longer you stay the harder it will be to let go.