I,m attracted to what I call average women, but these women don,t treat me like an average guy. I can tell they find me interesting, but yet they keep there distance.
2006-10-02 07:23:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no such thing as a woman being out of your league. Different women are attracted to different things. The trick is figuring out what they want and deciding if you are or want to be the things they want.
I've seen guys treat women like buddies when they should have been letting them know they were interested. People can't read minds. They must see that you are interested or they won't show any interest. Shyness and over compensating by being the class clown, etc. don't get women. Talking to them and showing respect and interest work.
I am an average guy, but I've had more than my share of all types of women over the years. No secret involved. I "treat em like a lady!" (as the old song goes.)
2006-10-02 07:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by risquefunforu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that she is out of your league, then she is, because you have made her so by your actions.
If you act too nervous, too apologetic, too needy, overly shy, too awkward, or (ironically) too excited to meet people, then they will feel hesitant about speaking to you because they will feel like you are a person who is easily offended, or too clingy, and they will feel nervous talking to you. Approach people with a self-confident smile that implies that you already know that they will like you, and it becomes a self-fulling prophecy since your positive attitude will be catching. Make sure that you make consistent eye contact, because that implies interest in the other person (always flattering), and it implies self-confidence (the opposite of fearful & needy). Keep keep talking to different people, and you will soon become better at it. You will soon feel confident, since you will realize that it is not really all that difficult. Whatever you do, don't get shy and start looking down at the ground when you are talking to a girl (like most guys do), because she will assume that you are looking at her boobs instead, and slap you. Always look at her face, or else look away across the room, but try not to look down while talking or listening.
If you find yourself staring at a cute girl across the room, and she looks up and sees you looking at her, do NOT do what most guys do; most guys in this situation will get shy and immediately look AWAY. If you read girls responses on Y!A, you will notice that this freaks girls out. If she sees you, ALWAYS maintain eye contact no matter how scary it seems, until SHE looks away. This makes you look confident. After that, do not keep looking at her. Ignore her and go talk to other people. She will probably come over and talk to you in order to see what's up.
If you find yourself getting too worked up over rejection that you cannot talk to people without getting nervious,remember that how people react to you probably has more to do with them, and the kind of day that they were having so far, than it does with you. Do NOT take rejection personally, because other people will see and hear about how you react. If someone does not want to talk to you, act as if it is no big deal (no matter how she reacts) and move on to the next person. The opinion of just ONE person does not matter, so quit worring about the reaction of the last crazy person that you met. There ARE nice people out there, and you will find them if you keep talking to people.
2006-10-02 14:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look at your behavior. If it is more than one woman who is treating you this way, perhaps it is something you are saying or doing that is turning them off. Self-esteem also goes a LONG way in being attractive to a woman.
2006-10-02 14:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by missportal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be a million things!!! Maybe your approach, maybe the women you are choosing. Go out one night, and bring a wing man. Maybe you just need some help?
2006-10-02 14:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by Willalee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like confident, not arrogant, men who are sure of themselves and their masculinity. If you think of them as "average" then why should they fall over themselves to date you? Most women think of themselves as above average (even if they aren't). And if you only consider yourself average, then why should an "above average" thinking woman, stoop to date an "average" guy. You feel me? Women date up unless they have low self esteem then they date whom they can get. Men tend to date down because most men are threated by overly beautiful or successful women. Seems to me the trick is to 1, stop thinking of yourself as average. 2. stop thinking of women as average and if you don't, then 3, find women you consider lower than average because they probably consider themselves average. You get it?
2006-10-02 14:30:43 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Here is how he knows: When he looks the woman over he has a feeling, either "She might be for me" or "I am out of her league." If you have the "out of my league" thought, forget it, cuz you have not matured enough yet to ask her anything. She will sense your ambivalance.
2006-10-02 14:26:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have a big penis that is what worked for me! And a little self confidence goes a long way buddy! trust me.
2006-10-02 14:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would help if you stop wearing the gun holster cowboy hat and boots
2006-10-02 14:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by cortical contusion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try washing.
2006-10-02 14:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
money talks
2006-10-02 14:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by jeffreygest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋