he is always crying or worried about what other kids at school say about his clothes. His clothes look good there name brand and are in style so I dont understand why he doesn't want to wear them. He says there ugly and to big but there not, there just baggy. I'm running out of things to ask him to get to the problem he is really having. Any ideas?
2006-10-02 07:10:29 · 12 answers · asked by Ree-Ree 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
A lot of things children learn are from what they see first hand... are there any older siblings who have similar worries or has he seen that in you?
I would also double check he's not being bullied at school, that would manifest itself as low self esteem... It important he knows his value doesn't lie in his clothes but within himself.
Also, are you sure the clothes are in style? Have a look at what his friends are wearing... his baggys might be a bit too mature for his age.
Finally, ask him to come up with a detailed alternative... unless he has a definitive idea of what he wants to wear instead then its not the clothes.
Hope that helps!
2006-10-02 07:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jon22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to his teacher and see what the other kids are wearing. Maybe those kids aren't as "fashion forward" as you, maybe to them baggie is not a good thing. You should let him pick out clothes next time you are shopping and see what he wants to wear. He's old enough to make that decision within reason...obviously no shorts in the winter. If he is still having the problem you may want to have a meeting with the school counselor, they are trained to deal with problems that arise in young children.
2006-10-02 14:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Moosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to his teacher? If he's concerned with what the other kids are saying, maybe someone is picking on him in school. Or perhaps he is having trouble with something in school that he doesn't want to say, so he instead focuses on his clothing.
I would try a talk with the teacher first, to see if there is anything going on you don't know about. I hope things turn out well for you and your son.
2006-10-02 14:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by missportal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him to his class room and see what the other kids are wearing. If you see a difference between his clothes and theirs then maybe you could get him some things like the other guys have. Maybe baggy jeans are not "in" at his school.
2006-10-02 14:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him pick out his own clothes and let him go shopping with you to try them on. Maybe what you think is stylish isn't what he thinks is stylish. If you let him choose his outfits he'll feel better about himself. If your worried that he'll pick out things that aren't appropriate, just help him a little. You can give him ideas, but if he feels like he chose the clothes he'll feel better about how he looks. You might also check with his teacher. Maybe the kids at school are teasing him. Kids can be cruel for no good reason.
2006-10-02 14:23:22 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he does not like baggy clothes and kids make fun of them and say they are too big. In my opinion, baggy is the same as too big and it's sloppy looking.
2006-10-02 14:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its what the kids at school are telling him and hes coming home to repeat it to you, i have a 6 yr old also, and kids can be cruel, yet as they are six years old what ppl or kids say to them they tend to believe since they no no better.... i bet you its the kids at his school picking on his clothes and hes believing what they are saying which is making him not want to wear them anymore.
try talking to his teacher
2006-10-02 14:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him take Karate. they teach you what is important in life and basically just good morals respect and it will help a LOT with his self esteem. And most of all it will help him with coordination and maybe he can make friends who dont bug him about what clothes he wears and just enjoy him as the person that he is.
2006-10-02 15:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by fleur_loser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the problem now days. My 9 year-old cousin has the same problem. She likes to dress up for school and is made fun of by the white trash crowd. I hope it works out.
2006-10-02 14:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by caitie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six is a bit young to worry about fashion. Perhaps he's being bullied at school and teased?
Talk to the the boy's teacher and counselor.
2006-10-02 14:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋