sister has my daughter bathe with her young son?

Question

I suspect from things I've heard that when my 14-year-old daughter is with my aunt, she has her bathe with her 5-year-old son. Is this ok if my daughter hasn't complained about it to me? I don't want to ask her directly because she might be embarrassed or feel she's complicit in doing something wrong.

Answer 1

Personally, I would ask your daughter just to make sure she's OK with the idea.

Then again, your aunt is being very irresponsible in having a 5yr old boy share a bath with a pubescent female - this boy is going to be either one lucky kid or emotionally scarred!

For all we know, he might develop a sexual deviancy, have memories to masturbate to through his entire teen years, or might just be molested by her (thinking of worst case scenarios, with all respect to your daughter...)

I suggest making sure that your daughter is OK with it, but nevertheless suggest that she be discouraged from doing it, for the boys sake, not hers.

Answer 2

Now a days kids are alot smarter than they were back in the days. So having a 14yr old taking a bath with a 5yr old is not good some kids may do things that are inappropriate. Maybe your aunt is trying to save money and water. But that definitely is not the move. Talk to your aunt about it or have your child take a bath at home before going there.

Answer 3

I dont think its right for a 14 year old to be bathing with a 5 year old. Your daughter is a young lady and therefore is developing and going through changes. A 5 year old is old enough to notice these changes. I feel that you should talk with your daughter about these things also and let her know that she didnt do anything wrong but the fact that she is a young lady and young ladies bathe alone.

Answer 4

Your 14 yr old daughter doesn't need to be taking bathes with anyone. You need to sit down and have a talk about this with your aunt and tell her that you think that its wrong for this happening. Your daughter and even you should know better.

Answer 5

Your the mother and as moms we have instincts. For me it's that feeling in my tummy. I ALWAYS listen to it when it pertains to my children and I think you should too! Your daughter is not doing anything wrong, and your aunt might not think she is either, however it's not OK. I would just simply say to her " your not having them bath together are you? because she is a teen going through lots of physical changes and is not a little girl anymore, and I'm not comfortable with them taking a bath together"

Answer 6

this is very wrong......do not let your daughter stay with your aunt anymore....a 5 year old has no business bathing with a 14 year old developing young lady...your aunt obviously has a problem it is your aunts duty to bathe her five year old son or help him bathe.....this is disgusting....report her a*ss to child protective services and keep your daughter away from her before somthing terrible happens like the aunt tells her its ok for her to bathe with a 25 year old cousin!

Answer 7

14 is way too old to be bathing with a 5 year old. If they were 5 and 6, fine ... but 14? No way.

Talk to your Aunt and tell her it is not acceptable and to please stop.

Answer 8

No, she should be doing it on her own now. Even though she hasn't complained, give the girl a break! Ask her in a way that she won't feel embarrased, then put a stop to to it! You are her Mother, it is up to you .

Answer 9

I take a shower with my 5 yo son, You can't possible believe that the kid is getting some kind of sexual thing out of it.

If it bothers her tell her to ask to bathe alone.

Answer 10

I don't think it is appropriate. Your daughter may not want to complain to her aunt, but you should say something like. "hey, give her some privacy" Ok Aunt Bea? Drop her like a not potato and consult your priest.