So I have been dating this guy for about 4 months or so, we are doing great. Have totally fallen in love. I have known him for about 6 years so I know a lot of his friends, and one of them I almost hooked up with a couple of years ago. The other night he was over at the house, just the three of us hanging out. When my boyfriend fell asleep he started saying some things that were kind of inappropriate. Like, "I've always thought you were really sexy," and "I've always regreted us not getting together," etc...Things that made me really uncomfortable. But he was drunk, and probably wouldn't have said them otherwise...and this is someone who has been my boyfriends best friend for about 10 years. Do I say something?? Or just leave it alone? I mean he didn't try and force himself on me or anything..??? Help!!!
2006-10-02 07:06:20 · 24 answers · asked by kt367521 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Since he was drunk and he's only said it once, I would leave it alone. He didn't force himself or try anything he was merely saying what was on his mind. If it continues, then I would approach him first and tell him you think it is inappropriate and it makes you uncomfortable. Just let it go for now and if it continues, say something.
2006-10-02 07:21:04 · answer #1 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go to the friend and ask him if he was just saying that on the account of him being drunk or was he for real because you know that, A drunk mind speaks sober thoughts. Then if he says he was for real let him know that it's all bad and that you are in love with his best friend. If he's a real best friend to your man he will understand and back the hell up and there's no real need to tell boyfriend. If he contiunes to say things that make you unconfortable after you've told him let you boyfriend know and let him put his friend in check!
2006-10-02 07:16:27 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Majesty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does regret not having you in his life, and being drunk, a LOT of honesty often comes out then with some people. If he was 'polite' enough not to push things when he was drunk, I imagine he will continue to do so otherwise.
I'd drop it unless it happens again. But you seem to be tempersing youre decision with good judgement and consideration for everyone. HIGH five for you on that!
2006-10-02 07:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he had been drinking... He was just saying what he thought at the time and was probably hoping to get some ( like most guys) But you should say something! Let him know you are in love with your man... and it made you feel uncomfortable when he said that to you.
2006-10-02 07:10:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol is confession in a bottle where all of our past regrets are spilled to all.
I'd leave it be for the time being but if it persisted i'd ask myself if he doesn't even value his friendship with your beau then how will he honor an even stronger bond with you?
Once a good friend of mine had a girlfriend he adored then one night at the club she hit on me. I never told him because they eventually did break up and i assumed they would but once a girl i was insane about flirted with a friend of mine and he didn't tell me until after she and i split up.
We hate to put friendships and loves in jeopardy but in the end truth inevitably comes out.
2006-10-02 07:26:06 · answer #5 · answered by sprydle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say leave it go for now. As you said, he was drunk and I'm sure he does think you are sexy and now that you are with his buddy he realizes that he blew his chance and should have gotten with you before.
At anyrate, saying something to your bf now may ruin their friendship (I've seen friendships ruined by less) and I don't think his comments warrant that. If he continues to say things to you, drunk or not, I would say something to him, not your bf, and tell him to knock it off. If he doesn't then you should mention this to your bf and hope he can just talk to him without there being an altercation.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 07:14:51 · answer #6 · answered by Brandy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone. Like you said he was drunk, and probably wouldn't have said anything otherwise. If he makes anymore advances when NOT drunk, then just tell him flat-out that he's betraying his friend and that you're not interested. If it happens again after that, then tell your boyfriend
2006-10-02 07:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as you have always heard guys are dogs. Women become more attractive when they are taken, because guys know they definitely can't have them. So at the moment he was horny (it was night, a couple beers in him) so he was speaking from is other head. I know it is uncomfortable, but you need to let him know when he is sober. Tell him "I just want you to know I was uncomfortable the other night you were expressing those things to me. Our time has passed and I am with ------ now. So please respect that and keep your thoughts to yourself. It is not fair to me or to your FRIEND."
2006-10-02 07:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you don't trust yourself with the friend, leave it alone, because this is not a big deal. I get the feeling, though, that it scared you because the things he said excited you. I suggest you back off with your boyfriend, and agree not to be exclusive with each other. This would give you the opportunity to explore your options.
2006-10-02 07:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him read your question here on Yahoo Answers (with the answers given by others) if not -explain what happened the same way u did here it will solve ur prob... u have given enough details ... I think he'll understand ... it is better to be honest.
If u don't feel there's a need to say anything ... then don't. It's ur decision.
good luck.
2006-10-02 07:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋