just had too get this out.. my daughter called me 4 wks ago told me she was expecting. ok this is fine we can deal with this her boyfriend just joined the marines. then she calls me last nite told me when he graduates next month and gets 21 days off before he leaves they are getting married ( i live 6 hrs from her). this is fine but, all sooo soon. and i love him he is a great guy they were going to get married any way. now just a lot sooner . just would like some feed back from you. has this happened to you.?
2006-10-02 07:03:52 · 10 answers · asked by Ozark American 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Congrats!
What are you doing typing here? You've got big plans mother-in-law! Go get em!
PS. Have fun tickling those little granchild toes!
2006-10-02 07:06:49 · answer #1 · answered by Robert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well not exactly like that. but when I found out that I was expecting We were already engaged and we didn't want people to think that we were getting married for the baby so we put it off well last Minuit I decided that I wanted to do it any way and we through a wedding together in three weeks I was six months along and had to buy a new dress the day before the wedding. you can do it if you don't mined having a small wedding. and well nine years latter we are still married and happy so anything is passable. GOOD LUCK on every thing and congrats to you on the new baby and in-law!!!
It is also a better idea if they get married before he goes to boot camp even if it is in the court house. then when he comes home for leave then through a reception for them or an open house. I think that would be your best bet.
2006-10-02 14:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by kimbug16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually a smart thing for them to do before he deploys anywhere. That way she will be covered medically and will have full access to all of the military installations and support groups. I am not saying that should be the reason to get married, but she will be a lot better off since they are going to get married anyhow, this will give her access to privileges that she would not get if he leaves on a deployment and they are not married. The biggest of which is her access to medical coverage since she is pregnant...
2006-10-02 14:08:45 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her congrats and gover her your support. they were going to get married anyway right? she is expecting, he is in the marines. they thought about it before they decided to marry so soon i am sure. you know that when a person joins the military, the pay and benefits are more when they are married and the money goes home to the spouse. congratulate her.....you will have a grandbaby soon!! your daughter is doing great...at least she isnt pregnant by a deadbeat.
2006-10-02 14:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - cool beans. Marriage is a tricky business regardless of the circumstance. I met my husband on a Sunday and three months later we were married, and we've been married 27 years. so who knows? Sounds like you have a lot of plans to make - good luck.
2006-10-02 14:09:32 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he makes her happy and it's what she wants to do all you do is give your blessing. Just be happy for her and be there just in case things don't go as planned.
Good Luck and Congrats....
2006-10-02 14:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he makes your daughter happy and they are in love then just accept it for her sake and let them enjoy this time in their lives
2006-10-02 14:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by ann.natalie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should talk to her and let her know you feel overwhelmed. she will make you feel better about their descision if you talk it out. Or she may realize that it is too soon, and decide not to rush into it.
2006-10-02 14:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by junkee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hasn't happened to me, but congratulations on both upcoming events!
2006-10-02 14:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better they get married now.
2006-10-02 14:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by Surf n' Snow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋