I have three daughters,ages 7,2 and 2.I live with them,without the father(he is in another country).Anyway,I don't have anyone to leave the kids with while I'm at work(8 hours a day) and they usually stay at home alone.I don't send my 7-year-old to school,because she,as the oldest,has to look after the twins(who are younger).So far,she has learnt these: washing her hair and combing it,making sandwiches,keeping the room clean(putting the toys to their places),using the telephone,etc.She is also learnt how to take care of the twins - she has the food ready and just gives it them at lunch,she makes them go to bed for a nap some time during day.She knows all the rules and keeps them - no using cookers,electric stoves,boiler, not opening the doors to strangers,etc.She is very mature.Should I teach her how to cook easy things and clean with a rag and what other things could I teach her do at that age?
2006-10-02 06:51:40 · 24 answers · asked by sandyna s 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
you have got to be Kidding. where is DCFS.(child protective services) She is 7. and a kid. Don't you think that if something was to (god forbid) happen that she would have to grow up with with that guilt. She is 7 that is too much responsibility for her. Yes some of the thing you have taught her are good for her to know but not leaving hr in charge of 2 toddlers. She needs to be in school and be a kid. I think your teaching her to want to run away
2006-10-02 07:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by careermom18 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are a freakin nut that little girl is not the twins' mother you are go to DCFS (Department Of Child and Family Services) and ask them to help you find a babysitter for those kids and get the older one enrolled in school. If social services found out about this you would lose them all. DCFS will help set you up with daycare afterschool programs Headstart early headstart etc. Take a couple of days off of work tell your boss you need to do this or call Social services from work and have them come get your kids so that those little girls can live a normal life until you get your act together.
2006-10-02 08:43:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is complete ignorance, besides being cruel to your 7 year old. For one, it is illegal to keep her out of school!!! Two it is illegal to leave two year old's alone with a 7 yr old. I have a 7 yr old, a 4 yr old, and a 9m old. My 7 yr old is very responsible, and has chores and could do all things that you just described, HOWEVER, I would NEVER force that upon her, she is still a child. And god forbid something ever serious should happen like you house catches fire, or one of the twins chokes on something, then what??? You 7 yr old, would be traumatized for life thinking that it was her fault, when i actuality it was YOUR fault for putting your children int hat situation in the first place! and you would be in prison, leaving your babies without their mother, which maybe is the best thing??? Someone should report your ***! Every state has resources, USE THEM!!! it would be a cold day in hell before i left my kids home alone all day long, have you no conscious???? May God protect your babies, since you haven't enough common sense to do so!
2006-10-02 07:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These duties are your responsibility, not a child's. Your robbing your daughter of a life and an education. Seek help locally through some organization that will provide daycare why you are work and send your daughter to school. I would personally report a person who was doing what your doing with your children to CPS. I'm not uncaring and I know it's hard, but you can't turn a 7 year old into the surrogate mother in the house for your convenience. I'm a single, working mom too. There is an after school daycare program at most schools and it's free. There are programs for pre school aged children to.
2006-10-02 07:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I understand that you are in a difficult situation to look after the twins. But on the other side, you daughter's place is to be at school. So I would find it very difficult to advise on what else she should learn in the house. No way you could find some other help to look after the twins? Also wondering, you may be sent to jail for not sending your 7 year old to school.
2006-10-02 09:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Claire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that sometimes you have to do what you have to do to support your family but you are really pushing it with this, My sister who was only 10 months older than me practically raised me and my younger sister while my mom was out working and doing her thing. My sister finally got fed up with it and it was way to much for her to do at 10yrs old. My sister and my mom have never had a good relationship since. No child should have that kind of responsibility and stress. If you didnt have her then you would make arrangements for someone else to do it. You are ruining that 7 yr old little girls life. You are taking away her childhood. I have a 6 yr old and couldnt imagine putting that all on her. Look at your childs future...no schooling? no socializing with friends her age? no just being a kid? You are making a mistake. There are people out there who will help and can help you just have to find them,
2006-10-02 07:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand hard times. But it sounds to me the only one your really taking care of is you. All the kids are in danger when you leave a 7 year old in charge. My son is 8 and I have 3 more kids younger then him. He is the smartest 8 year old I have ever met and so intelligent that he could do those things you ask of your 7 year old. But that is not right my son is 8 and I want him to act and do as an 8 year old should. Please find help through outreach programs. PLEASE stop the abuse and let your little girl be a little girl.
2006-10-02 06:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by rangerhonor 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What you're doing is actually illegal in most states. Though very poorly enforced. Parents take advantage of their children all the time. At least try not to have any more for your little 7 year old to take care of, if you can be responsible enough to at least do that much.
Better yet, do your kids a favor and give them all up for adoption. You don't really want this responsibility and don't seem to be handling it very well. You have a 7 year old compensating for you right now but she'll figure you out, eventually they all will. You're a fraud of a parent and you don't have the means to take care of them. They would be better off with another parent.
2006-10-02 06:56:00 · answer #8 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Are you F*cking crazy ??? She is seven and she is not the mother of those babies . Stop making her care for them while you are out . Get a sitter for all of them and let her be a child and play she should not be doing the things you have already have her doing ! You should be reported to DCS . You had those babies start acting like a mother . If you can't give them to someone that can .
2006-10-02 07:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in the United States and someone finds out about this, they are going to take all three children away from you because it is dangerous and unfair. A seven year old should be responsible for getting herself dressed, going to school, putting her dishes in the sink after meals and doing her homework. If you are in the U.S., contact your city or county government to find out about child care for your twins and make sure your 7 year old goes to school.
2006-10-02 06:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by ShortnSweet 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋