I am 18 in college and i live with my parents , brother and younger cousin he is four going to be five. My parents have custody of him and i am his godmother. I was shy for most of highschool and my parents were protective of me not letting me do anything afraid i was going to end up like my aunt mother of my younger cousin.I got into 4 different colleges but chose to postpone my entry for a year so i could go to a community college and figure out what i wanted to do.Problem is my younger cousin is used to sleeping in my bed and when i stay up to study he wont go to sleep or if i am out with friends. Next year i will also be dorming and will not be able to babysit anymore or allow him to sleep with me. What can i do to prepare him?
2006-10-02 06:48:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I feel guilty when i want to go out with friends wich is rare but i want a social life. My parents say he will just get used to me not being there and it will be just like a phase but i still feel bad when he crys when i go out.
2006-10-02 06:50:22 · update #1
He has also bitten bf's and friends i have had over.
2006-10-02 06:51:31 · update #2
explain to him right now what will happen. Maybe get him to sleep in his own room starting now. It will all work out. Just give him a bit of time and he will get used to it.
2006-10-02 06:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by butterfly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not helping him by letting him sleep with you, and stop you from having friends. And he has bitten people!?! He is 4, he should not be biting people. You could use reading some parenting books. I know you are not the parent, but as his godmother, the kind thing to do would be to teach yourself some parenting skills. I hope the best for the both of you.
2006-10-02 06:59:14 · answer #2 · answered by juniper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This question made me emotional. I think it is wonderful that the two of you are so close. Sounds like you are his security. He is most definitely going to have a difficult time with you leaving whether he sleeps with you or not. But, he will survive and to make it a little easier I would start talking with him about what a big boy he is becoming and how you'd be so proud of him if he goes to sleep on his own. Make it a positive change. Maybe go out and buy him a special pillow that he can sleep with. And/or a new pair of pj's that help little boys go to sleep :). It worked for my nephew. He was an insecure child because his mama wasn't around much when he was little. He usually was at my mother's house or mine. He slept with both of us when he was with us. When we decided to get him to sleep on his own and feel more secure about himself we went out and bought him a new pair of pj's. We told him that they were special pj's that would allow him to go to sleep by himself. We also bought him a character pillow. He was sooo excited to go to bed that night by himself. It didn't take long and he was off to sleep. However, after about 5 days he said he didn't want to do it anymore because he was afraid and had nightmares. I bought him a lamp from a resell it shop that was unique looking. It was rather ugly. :) I took the metal off that held the shade and bulb and left it bare. I put it next to his bed and explained that it was a very special thing that sucks up all the bad dreams and thoughts while he was sleeping. He smiled and went right to sleep. He is now 13 and still sleeps with it next to his bed. :) I love him to pieces!!! And it sounds like you love your cousin that much too. Good luck with whatever you try and God bless you and your family!
2006-10-02 07:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start putting him in his own bed for naps- if he naps and for sleeping. When he gets out and cries, just keep putting him back in. It will take 3 days if you are consistent. An 18 year old should not be the godmother of a 4 year old. Your mother needs to take back responsibility for this child. Please get on with your life and go to college and don't end up a mother of a child that someone else has to take care of.
2006-10-02 06:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by ShortnSweet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a joke or a trick question?Are you sure you are 18 and not 4?
Put the kid to bed-tell him to shut up and get to sleep and you go out,study do what adults do.
2006-10-02 06:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by racquel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to tell you he is going to cry and possibly a lot, however, it is nice to hear someone who cares so much
2006-10-02 06:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by mymail55350 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to let go. That kid has suffered, he has to learn to let go now then later.
2006-10-02 07:10:40 · answer #7 · answered by caitie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋