Wedding questions..?

Question

1- I am Lutheran and my boyfriend is Catholic. I was wondering if it is possible to have a Catholic blessing BEFORE an actual wedding ceremony?

2- My mom died November of 2004.. how can I add something to remember her at the wedding?

Thanks!!

Answer 1

1. Yes, you can have that done at your cermony. It is yours after all.
2. You could have a word said for your mother and have a picture of her at the cermony either on a table or in a pew. Its wonderful that you want to honor her at your day.

Answer 2

Wow... this brings back memories. My husband was Lutheran though. But to answer your question, yes you can have a catholic blessing before the actual ceremony if that is what you want...you don't have to have the priest read it...it could be a family member.

2.)you could light a candle for your mom and have a song playing in her memory. Make sure to announce the situation while doing so. It will be really nice.

Answer 3

I have read a variety of things on recognizings parents and family who have passed. What I have noticed is that the less, the better. A wedding is supposed to be a joyous occasion, and while you may feel the need to recognize a loved one who is no longer with you, make it so you and those close to you know what is going on without going overboard, like lay a certain color flower petal around your unity candle, or have a song played at some point (like when you are walking down the aisle). Nothing like taking a moment of silence or the morbid empty chair that no one can sit in. your loved ones will always be with you.

You could also mention it in your program or have bows placed around the reception site, but just do it so it does not interfere with your wedding or cause any heartaches. I know that sounds heartless, but like I said, a weddnig is a joyous occasion. Memorialize you mom by doing something that is special and unique to you and yours.

Congratulations!

Answer 4

It is probably best to speak with the person who will be marrying you on how to integrate both faiths into one ceremony, I do not see a problem with a blessing prior to the ceremony, but that is best left for you and your fiance to decide upon because it's your day and have it however you want. As far as remembering your mother, I am sorry for your loss. When my husband and I married it had only been 2 years since his sister passed away. Well his other sister was my maid of honor, so when him and his sister had walked down the aisle before I had entered, she had a bouquet of the same color lillies they used at her memorial service, she handed the bouquet to my husband who placed it on an empty chair that was reserved in the front, we had our pastor explain that we wanted to remember her on that day, it worked out great. It was not over the top yet enough to show that we were all thinking about her. It is fine to honor her, a funeral is not the only time to do it, remember, its your day, do as you please.

Answer 5

1 - You can basically do what you want on your wedding day but when you mix religions you have to be careful. I would talk with your fiance and his parents and your whomever is performing the ceremony about this one.

2 - You could have a candle in her honor. I had a great-grandmother who had passed away and she mean't the world to me we were really close. So, in the ceremony we did pictures of our grandparents and had flowers in honor. You can see pictures of this table on my 360 page (just click on my aviator)

http://www.foreverandalways.com/ProductDetails/wedding-memorial-candle/memorial-candles/155-15-215.htm

Here is a website for a personalized candle. You can go under a serach engine and type in wedding memory candle for other websites for other candles. This will just give you an idea. Then you can light the candle and say this is in honor of my mother who passed away.

I wouldn't make the ceremony sad, because it is supposed to be happy for you, but you do want to remember her. Just remember she is watching you. "There are holes in the floor of heaven"

Another idea is that is actually a country song (There are holes in the floor of heaven) you could play that during the reception in honor of your mother.

One day, shy and 8 years old
When grandma passed away
I was a broken hearted little boy
Blowing out that birthday cake
How i cried when the sky let go
With a cold lonesome rain
My mom smiled, said "Don't be sad child.
Grandma's watching you today."

Chorus
Cause there are holes in the floor of Heaven
And her tears are pouring down
That's how you know she's watching
Wishing she could be here now
Sometimes if you're lonely
Just remember she can see
There are holes in the floor of Heaven
And she's watching over you and me

Seasons come and seasons go
Nothing stays the same
I grew up, fell in love
Met a girl who took my name
Year by year we made a life
In this sleepy little town
I thought we'd grow old together
Lord, I sure do miss her now

Chorus
Cause there's holes in the floor of Heaven
And her tears are pouring down
That's how I know she's watching
Wishing she could be here now
Sometimes when I'm lonely
I just remember she can see
There are holes in the floor of Heaven
And she's watching over you and me

Well my little girl is 23
I walk her down the aisle
It's a shame her Mom can't be here now
To see her lovely smile
They throw the rice, I catch her eye
As the rain starts coming down
She takes my hand says, "Daddy don't be sad
Cause I know Mama's watching now."

Chorus
There are holes in the floor of Heaven
And her tears are pouring down
That's how I know she's watching
Wishing she could be here now
Sometimes when I'm lonely
I just remember she can see
There are holes in the floor of Heaven
And she's watching over you and me.


I hope this helps. Let me know if you have any more questions you can send me an email!

Answer 6

I don't know the answer to #1

but for No. 2 - I have seen parrents that have passed honored and commemorated with lighting a candle and during the ceremony. And the officant says something nice about their being present in spirit here today.

God Bless and good luck!

Answer 7

You need to talk to your priest. I've attended blessings AFTER but none before.

Sorry about your Mom. Can the two of you light a candle while someone reads about it being in memory of your mother? Or if you're being married in the church maybe place a rose at the statue of Mary.

And don't listen to Surf and Snow. Wow. What a bitter person. Remembering your mother whom you loved and miss especially on this day IS a celebration of your wedding!

Answer 8

You will have to talk to your local pastor about this. Your fiance will have to talk to his parish priest to see how it affects his status if he gets married in a Lutheran church.
Sorry about the loss of your mom. My dad passed away two years before my wedding. Now, I'm absolutely not saying the following to be harsh, but it's the reality - your wedding is not the place to do a commemoration of your mom. You obviously will be thinking of her all day, as will members of your family. Something you and your husband could do later is to take flowers to the cemetery for her.

Answer 9

At a wedding I went to where the father had died, they left the seat empty and inside when you went in the door for the reception, they had pictures of the parent and greandparents who couldn't be there with candles and little stories. It was very sweet and I plan on doing something like it when I get married.

Answer 10

You will have to promise to raise your kids Catholic if you want the blessing. And it's a long process with a lot of paperwork.

I would do a flower arrangement or something. I've heard of some brides putting one special flower in their bouquet to symbolize their loved one. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you have a really special day.

Answer 11

I don;t know about the first question, but for the second you can a gat a grat memorial vase or cylinder from www.customweddingsolutions.com for about $20 and have her name or "mom" etched on the back. Then you can fill it with her favorite floers or a candle and place it at the front of the church, near the unity candle, or on a special pedestal or chair.

They are located on the "accessories" page at www.customweddingsolutions.com