I have always wanted to have a lot of children,but how do i tell a guy that i want 6 kids with out scarying him.how would i go about talling him.I NEVER HAD A BOYFRIEND BEFORE
2006-10-02 06:28:30 · 13 answers · asked by Me 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to add that child birth doesnt scare me. i seen it and it looks and feels painful by just watching it.but at the end you see the look on the new mothers face and it priceless. makes me want to cry,and it think about financial aspect too but i wouldnt change my mind.
2006-10-02 07:47:02 · update #1
Talking about children is something u shouldnt just throw at some guy. When your closer with a guy u can tell them if they want to no, and if a guy is just wondering, dont sound so serious about it but dont lie. Just tell them u were thinking of six children and dont make it sound like a huge thing. If i were a guy, dating someone would be more focused on the present, not how many children u want. Let that be the last thing u talk about.
2006-10-02 06:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids and its wonderful! But its very hard to say how many kids you want before having at least 1. Children are not just a number and its a couple decision. There are many factors that influence this choice, not only economical, but in how much time you can give them. See this on a different perspective. Its not that you're having children, its that they are having YOU as a parent.
2006-10-02 13:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by HeadH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before you tell someone you should watch a child birth video, like the whole process. Im pretty sure after that, you will only want one, if any. Plus it is a little premature to be thinking of this stuff if you never even had a man before. If you start talking about the brady bunch immediately, you will never keep a boyfriend. Welcome to the real world kid.
2006-10-02 13:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring up the subject. Men get scared when they are required to think; and especially about the future. You may want six kids at this time but after giving birth to one you might change your mind. There are no absolutes.
2006-10-02 13:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up as a joke and find yourself a richer or upper-class kind of guy, just somebody who would be able to afford them and who would not mind having another child aside from the fact that he'll keep changing diapers in the middle of the night.
Good luck.
2006-10-02 13:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by Mario E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it comes up, just tell him. I wanted to have 4 children and my husband 3. I had fun talking him into the 4th child and she is a joy to have around. There will be men out there who want as much as you, keep looking and the right one will come around.
2006-10-02 13:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait....trust me. There is no reason to tell him right now this very second. When things start to get very serious the convo of marriage ends up coming up anyway. Bring it up when the time is right. Like, maybe after college
2006-10-02 13:30:05 · answer #7 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in honesty, but only when the time is right. He doesn't need to know you want 6 kids right now. Until marriage is in sight, don't worry about it. Just get to know him. You may find you don't want those 6 kids with him!
2006-10-02 13:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by bamagrits84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well when the time is right sugguest that you would like to have alot of children and maybe you should wait to tell him that.
2006-10-02 13:35:38 · answer #9 · answered by resident_evil_leon_hot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it to yourself, and as u get older and into a more serious relationship, your mind could change and you could have different views on marriage, children etc
2006-10-02 13:43:49 · answer #10 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋