it is a sin
2006-10-02 06:19:12 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
its a sin to live a lie too.
2006-10-02 06:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not worried about the sin part. But i know that raising a kid is a lot of hard work and it is a job that takes 24 hrs a day, 7 days a week, because you can never leave the kid alone and they need so many things like to be fed and cared for and dressed and changing of diapers. Plus somehow you have to come up with the money for it all like to rent the apartment, pay for food, doctor's appointments, etc. It is very very hard to do it with only one person. It takes two parents really just to keep up with taking care of a kid. That is why everyone tells you to be married first. Because it is SO DIFFICULT to raise a kid on your own, it is very stressful.
2006-10-02 13:28:16 · answer #2 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 24 year old mother. me a and my boyfriend have a 1 year 7 moth old pretty girl and we love her, treat her well and respect her.I didnt get married cause I m still studying. However she was not planned but now I would never turn back time. I love her and she's everything for me. There are married people who neglect their children, treat them bad, scold them all the time, beat them...I dont, I am a good parnet. I am also catholic. I know I did a sin...but not for having a baby but for doing sex...so I m sure most of us did this sin a hundred times.
2006-10-02 13:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by icemammamalta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, my parent was married before having kids 1 out of 4 times, i don't think you have to or should be married before having kids. however, i'll leave determining whether it is a sin or not to someone more qualified than myself.
2006-10-02 14:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think people should be married before having children. Do I think it's a sin...no I kNOW it's a sin because my Bible says it is.
2006-10-02 13:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by mamabens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...Normal people, a couple who love each other and respect each other will plan, will date, get engaged, get married and have kids as normal people are. That is the way it is, then if some other people think different, well they are just different... Go and see other cultures who follow old rules.. they have better families, less crimes, better kids, less divorces...
Sin or not, what is correct is correct... whatever begins bad ends bad. Rule of life..
I hope it helps...
2006-10-02 13:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by El Recio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby and I did everything backwards. We had our daughter, bought a house THEN got married 5 years later. In my opinion, and this is just me. The divorce rate is so freaking high anymore, that people seem to think that marriage means so little that if it doesn't work, well, shoot, we can always get divorced. Image the trauma that puts on little kids. If you WANT to be married before having kids, then get married, if you don't want to be married, then don't.
I think it should be a personal choice.
2006-10-02 13:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Sandi A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah maybe in a perfect world. Reality is that things happen and I do believe it is the parents responsibility to set a good example for their kids and eventually get married. They owe it to them to make it work. However if the situation is too hazardous for the kids then they need to go their separate ways and try and be good parents.
2006-10-02 13:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by laura_vg21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its only a sin if u think of it as a sin......i really think if it happens theres nothing you can do about it.....just be a loving caring parent.....not giving baby the essentials and lots of love thats an even bigger "sin"......if ur not married that doesnt mean u r a bad person.....
2006-10-02 13:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is good to be married so your children are legitimate and know who their father is.
Is it a sin? - well, does it matter if you are a sinner and have been born with the sin nature? - Everyone commits sin.
Concern yourself more with wether or not you have been born again and have become a new creature in Christ. That is the real issue.
2006-10-02 13:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the parent should be in a happy, loving and nuturing relationship regardless of legal paperwork. The objective would be to provide a loving, safe environment for the children. I'm sure we all know of many married couples that because of their own issues (constant bickering, yelling, disagreements), are not able to provide that kind of environment for their children.
2006-10-02 13:28:03 · answer #11 · answered by free2b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋