My girlfriend was married for 2 yrs, and with this guy for 7 yrs..He told her he was not happy and filed for divorce, now I am involved with her and she is always emailing him and I cant seem to get her to see how it makes me feel. she always says they were good friends and she misses parts of him and I even saw an email where she says she wanted a second chance...Now she says she is not going to contact him anymore, but on occasions I ask her if she has talked to him and she says he emailed her or text her..Now I dont know if I can trust her talking to him because of what I saw on the email..
2006-10-02 06:18:51 · 9 answers · asked by Brian C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She needs time to figure out who and what she wants. If they have no community property, no children, and nothing that has them glued together, she shouldn't be texting and e mailing him if she has you AND you have expressed it's not ok with you.
She's NOT over him, and if you choose to believe her when she tells you she is, that is as much your free will as it is hers to be in contact with him.
I think she would give this guy a chance at ANYTHING she could get a chance at. Women are DVS, my initials, Thank You, but you get it.
There is now a question of trust, and no relationship can make it with that being in the picture. If you are asking her about her contact with him, then you don't trust her. This isn't going to work, not now anyway.
Tell her you love her, but feel she needs time to decide what she wants. You're not leaving her, you're protecting you. Something we all lose control of in most relationship failure's.
2006-10-02 06:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Cinderella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 03:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Situations like these, it all comes down to ---- or get off the pot. She is not sure of what she wants and so for the meantime she wants her cake and she wants to eat it too.
I know this sucks, but you have to make a stand. Simply tell her "him or me". It is not fair for you to have your emotions played with and your time wasted like that.
Also if she loses you, it might be better in the long run. She could realize what she had and if you are still available you could reconnect and be stronger than before.
2006-10-02 06:26:43 · answer #3 · answered by coolbeanfive 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She clearly has unfinished business with her ex. She clearly has more loyalty to him, also. You are being strung along by someone who cannot be alone or stand on her own two feet. You can do better. You deserve better. Let her go. You should not be made responsible for carrying her baggage.
2006-10-02 06:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is really hard to let go of a long time relationship. You should step back a little and give her some space to sort out her feelings. You should not attempt to make her choose between him and you there is too much history there. just be there to support her if you can.
2006-10-02 06:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Brian, this is bad news. Tell her that b/c you care for her that it bothers you and that you would afford the same courtesy to her. If she's still in touch with him and they don't have children then she still loves him and id stringing you along. She will break your heart if you let her.
2006-10-02 06:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She isnt done with him. You need to give her an ultimatum. She needs to go or get off the pot!!!! Tell her its either you or him. Until she is done, you arent the only one!
2006-10-02 06:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away, or just start using her for sex while you find someone else. Since she is doing the same to you.
2006-10-02 06:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why you worry about..he has already pumped her in the past......if they keep banging each other doesn't hurt....
2006-10-02 06:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by Nick Rios 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋