For the past 8 years, I've been seeing this great guy off and on. By great, I mean he has it all: he's a Christian, charming, good-looking, and fun to be around. The problem is, I still don't feel a spark. I've tried and tried for years to make myself fall in love with him and ask myself on a daily basis, "What's wrong with me? This is a great guy!" So, should I keep trying and hope for a change of heart, or, is it time to throw in the towel and look elsewhere for love?
2006-10-02 06:11:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well u should always listen to ur heart. like that song i think by dhsomething, "listen to your heart, before you tell him goodbye" maybe dht? anyways, if u feel like that its not gonna go anywhere then u should break up. because there could be someone else out there better. but 8 years is a longggggg time. just pray and ask God if u beleive ask him to help you and he will some how give u the sign u been looking for. there's a reason for everything and if u 2 werent meant to be then its God telling you to move on....
2006-10-02 06:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by texasdaddy2009 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw...this must be so hard for you... In my opinion, I'd throw in the towel. If it's not there, it's just not there. You gave it more than enough time. When you fall in love for real there will be sparks and firework and a natural high. Don't cheat yourself out of feeling like that! Just because it "makes sense" to be with someone doesn't make up for having sparks. I wonder if being with this "safe" guy is holding you back from finding Mr. Right? Best of luck to you! When you find the one it will be worth the wait!
2006-10-02 13:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is so funny. I have the same situation with a guy that Ive been on and off with for the last 10 yrs. He wants to marry me and is ready to do so ASAP but just like you I dont feel that spark. Will I settle ? Hell no. I want the spark, at least for now. Who knows when another 10 yrs passes.....lol......why not just continue to keep him around while dating others.
2006-10-02 13:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a break and see if you end up missing him. If you all are together all the time you may love him, but not even realize it. Just get away, hang out with the girls, go out on a date with someone else, see how you feel after that. No matter what be honest.
2006-10-02 13:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by Pretty Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's not there, it's not there. You can continue your friendship with him, and if it's ever meant to be with him, it will be. Just move on, date around, but don't go looking for love, let it come to you. When you're on a search, it usually doesn't work out the way you may think it will. Take your time and don't beat yourself up if this "perfect" man isn't necissarily the one for you! Have a great day!
2006-10-02 13:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Short answer... throw in the towel and banish him to the "friend" zone. You are not doing him or yourself any favors by keeping something going which will never really work for you
2006-10-02 13:18:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 years and still no spark? he sounds like he could be a great friend but nothing more. Tell him how you feel.
2006-10-02 13:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Burford Bigelow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Falling in love with someone is never hard. If you meet someone that you really connect with, developing feelings for them should not be hard. If you've tried to make yourself fall in love with him, it's just not meant to be. Sorry.
2006-10-02 13:18:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your intuition is telling you something about this guy maybe? Take a break, see if you can live w/o him. He does sound wonderful, be careful, everyone is looking for a guy like that...
2006-10-02 13:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if it was meant to be it would be someday things may change between you but don't put your life on hold any longer
2006-10-02 13:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋