or would that be improper etiquette?
2006-10-02 06:05:30 · 15 answers · asked by S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Probably "confronting" him would not be a good (or polite) idea. Maybe he doesn't interact with anyone because no one interacts with him. When was the last time you, or anyone, said "Hey John (or whatever his name is), how's it going?"
Be friendly, if he blows you off, then so what?
2006-10-02 06:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by cirestan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well confronting someone isn't a good idea. You do not know what is going on with this person. They may be extremely shy or have issues at home that has them down. The best thing to do (also a polite thing to do) is to invite this person to have a discussion with you. Like, "Hey so and so, what do you think about the last assignment?" or "Hey so and so, what is your opinion on this?" Just get them to interact with you...DO NOT CONFRONT! This could lead to the person to become defensive.
2006-10-02 18:11:54 · answer #2 · answered by ♪♫♪justpassingby♪♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda depends what he is like! I know your point is that he doesn't interact but used he interact with any one?? Does he look sad or shy?? It's a really hard thing to judge. You've obviously noticed him before now so you'll have to judge for self. I mean if he's shy then maybe that's exactly what he needs. If he drawn and sad looking then just take your time introducing yourself to him. Like start saying "hi" when you pass by him - see how he reacts to you. Take it slowly and day by day.
Unfortunately it's not as safe out there as it used to be so what ever you decide to do be cautious. He may be a lovely guy. It won't harm either of you to go slow.
Good luck........ What ever you decide.
2006-10-02 13:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just shy or a real loner. I was like that, too. Instead of "confronting" him and making him sink deeper into shyness, why not ask him to join you at the library for studying? Or ask if he could give you some tips on how to handle the newest school project? Maybe if he sees that people are nothing to be afraid of, he'll step out of the box a little. Maybe he's just new to the area.
2006-10-02 13:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by *Larry P. he's for me* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does there need to be a "confrontation?" It's not like the person did something wrong. Perhaps he is shy or having trouble at home or something. Instead of confronting him, why not just strike up a conversation? Be a friend; make a difference.
2006-10-02 13:25:06 · answer #5 · answered by curious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe you can do it in a positive, caring, Helpful way.. not in a confrontational, forceful or condescending way. =T it's hard sometimes, especially if u are trying to "look out" for this person. however, there are many reasons why people are anti social; could be behavioral, could be psychological, could be that his family at home is not supportive, encouraging, etc... =T anyways, try to be friendly and helpful, but open to whatever answer this person gives. try not to make them feel "stupid" or abnormal for being anti social, but just ask as a friend. good luck!
2006-10-02 13:14:46 · answer #6 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should "confront" him. Instead you should try to make conversation with him and try to include him in conversations without making him feel pressured. He probably feels uncomfortable in social situations, and is just "afraid" to interact for fear of rejection. Don't call him out on his behavior, for that will only make him more self conscious.
2006-10-02 13:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by sonik_starz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think u should confront him, i do however think that maybe you should try to talk to him/her. maybe this person is very shy and is lonely but afraid to reach out, maybe he/she is looking for Friends, and u can help! give i a try, u might just make someones day!
2006-10-02 13:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by trish p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you use the word "Confront" I suspect he may not be open to your interference.
Instead, you might ask him if you can sit with him some lunch time, or walk home part way with him, or insinuate yourself into his time as unobtrusively as possible. Let him open up to you if he chooses to. Don't ask.
2006-10-02 13:15:56 · answer #9 · answered by Clarkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No - it's that person's right to not want to interact with others.
Some people are shy or just aren't good in social surroundings.
It would be proper to respect his choice.
2006-10-02 13:22:50 · answer #10 · answered by jarhed 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋