I was at work yesterday and my boyfriend texted me saying " I have to end it between us because its not fair for me to keep you waiting for me. you need to go live your live to the fullest but i still want to be your friend.i'm sorry"
he's in the army and thats what he sent me.
we then texted after i got off of work(i tried calling him) he said that he loves me but its killing him not being with me. he said that he still cares alot about me and that will never change.
i waited over 4 years just to be with him and i'm willing to wait it out. but i don't think he sees it.
2006-10-02 05:54:12 · 14 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he hasn't been in the army for 4 years. he just join this past february. left for basic in march then came back home for a week in june. left june 27th and would have been home around christmas
2006-10-02 06:02:32 · update #1
because they hear of so many not making it as a couple while they are away and then there is always fear of what their outcome may be - injury, disability or death - sometimes they go into a "selfless" mode in order to encourage their partner to continue on....
am sure sometimes they wonder if they are forogotten while away.....the distance am sure is felt much greater by them than by those who remain here(for we have the liberty to do as we wish)...
reassure him when can - that his efforts of serving are greatly appreciated by all....
that you are as close as the contact......
if it is meant to be, it will work out.
Offer whatever support you can to him......time has a way of showing us the way.
Best wishes to both of you!
2006-10-02 06:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if he didn't have the balls to break it off over the phone, then he's a coward. If he really cared about you, he would want to try to make it work. There could be an underlying problem; either he found someone else, or he doesn't want a long distance relationship, or maybe he just wants to be single for a while. 4 years is a long time, but most likely HE doesn't want this relationship to be saved.
2006-10-02 06:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as you're hurting right now, you should leave him alone. He should be happy that you've waited this long to be with him. If he can't appreciate that, then someone else will. He couldn't even break up with you while speaking to you on the phone. You have feelings too. And if he was being courteous then he should've been courteous 4 years ago and not lead you on. If you want to get him back, don't call, text, or bother him. Let him be the one that tries to call you. Remember you didn't do anything wrong. Let him believe you are moving on. Guys usually want what they can't have.
2006-10-02 06:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, sounds like you do, wait this out, it has a good chance, BF is feeling insecure, omg look where he's at, is he in Iraq? If he does have someone else, the truth will come out. It does no good for you to project/assume, can you visit him? Face to face is better than texting, phone. You two need to talk this out. Good Luck...
2006-10-02 06:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Boots4ACowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've waited four years for someone who's not physically available? I admire your patience, but it's probably best that you move on.
Besides, if he really wanted to be with you he'd find a way. Soldiers get leave, y'know -- has he been spending his leave time with you for the last four years? If not, that's a sure sign that he's not really in it for the long haul, at least not with you.
2006-10-02 05:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants to go out with other women and just does not want to admit it to you. Most guys will stay with a women even when he does not really want her just to say he has someone home. Try dating someone new if he really loves you he will find out and try and get you back.
2006-10-02 05:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... if you waited four yrs...then ask him why cant i wait more?
its not a problem to me....
i love you and stuff like that
i think you should try to save it first before moving on...b/c he is definetly sorry about it and wants to be friends b/c he knows how great you are and doesnt want to be alne there he needs your support but he also wants you to have somoen by yourside...
so try first and if not then i guess you should just be friends
2006-10-02 05:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are out of luck. In any case you'll have to wait for him to even see if you've got a shot.
2006-10-02 05:55:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth about your feelings. The more you wait, the more you'll get fustrated.
2006-10-02 05:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by bettyboop_littlebettybop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to save a relationship with someone who broke it off through text??
2006-10-02 05:56:24 · answer #10 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋