I have found an abandoned kitten i estimate to be around three months old. i have been feeding and taking care of her, and she is very playful. problem is she doesnt like being pet and she wont let you hold her. how do i make it so my kitten will let me pet her and hold her
2006-10-02 05:51:17 · 16 answers · asked by oxenofterror 2 in Pets ➔ Cats
Many kittens are very active and don't like to be held; they're very busy exploring the world. For the moment, I would simply let her approach you when she becomes curious; a few cat-treats might be a good enticement. Give it time, don't force the issue, and in time she will probably sack out in your lap without a second thought.
2006-10-02 05:55:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have taken the kitten to a vet for basic shots and testing for FIV and FeLv too.
I would get a flower essence for her from www.spiritessence.com. Dr Jean Hovfe has one called "Scaredy Cat" which sounds like it would be appropriate for the kitten to help her get over any fears she is haboring about human touch and interaction and clear her psyche of any past traumatic experiences she had when she was left alone outside.
The essence is $16.95 and you simply shake the bottle well and put three or four drops on the fur between her ears. Treat her often for about ten days and you will see a difference in her adjustment to her new home and to humans. It doesn't have to be ingested and will be just as effective on her fur as it would be if you put it inside her. The essences cannot harm her in any way.
This is easy and inexpensive to help the kitten now. You will never regret treating her with this.
2006-10-02 06:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by old cat lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force the issue! Let the kitten come to you on it's own terms and, absolutely ALWAYS, let it go as soon as it wants to leave you. That alone is the best way to gain your kitten's trust. Other than that, just have patience. Assuming you don't have any other animals (cats/dogs), the kitten is either going to be alone or it's going to want to be with you. And, trust me, unless you give it a reason not to want to be with you, it'll choose that over loneliness any time! In other words, show it love and you'll get it back!
2006-10-02 06:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by FortheFuture 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to earn her trust. Warning though... it may never happen. My aunt took in a cat that was a few months old and the cat would hang around her in the house although it NEVER wanted human comfort (pets, holding, etc.) in all of the 17 years that she had her. I think she was a rarity though, most cats will warm up to their owners as least somewhat, but not all cats like to be held. Don't push her, let her come to you.
Good luck and thank you for giving a homeless kitty a home.
2006-10-02 05:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by msnite1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Patience. It takes time for a stray cat to trust you. Let her approach you do not try to grab her. It may take a long time or never. Kittens want to run away and not be held they are curios and very energetic. My now 1 year old cat wont let me pick her up sometimes. I think it also depends on the cats personality (timid, shy, lovable...)
2006-10-02 06:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the expression "A dog will come when called, but a cat will take a message and call you back?"
Some cats are just not the friendly cuddly type.
Also, don't be alarmed or take it personally if your cat cozies up to someone else.
I had a cat before, that would hide from every member of my family, except me. He would not go near anyone else.
Cat nature is very independant. And he may get friendlier as he gets older as well.
2006-10-02 05:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Allycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cats just don't like to be held or pet ever. I have one cat that doesn't like to be held. She's a very nice cat and will sit in your lap when she feels like it :) and she does like to be pet. BUT all four feet on the floor please. She hates to be picked up. heh anyway your kitten could be of a similar disposition as my lil uppity kitty :) or she could just have some issues from being abandoned be nice to her and don't force her if she struggles let her go you don't want her to distrust you too.
2006-10-02 06:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by leviathia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. Hold out your pointer finger to her and let her sniff it. This is a non-threatening gesture for a cat. It lets them know you are not going to attack them. If she feels comfortable she will let you pet her after that. She will show you when she is ready by rubbing up against you.
Keep in mind, some cats never like to be held. Its a personality trait.
2006-10-02 06:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just went through something pretty similar except the cat that my husband and I befriended was just a tiny bit older. I think the best thing to do is give her some time. When you're around her, make sure you move slowly and don't make any loud noises. She will learn to trust you. Good luck!
2006-10-02 05:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Roberts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time , an let her adjust to you. Trust is earned , that goes for Humans & Animals !
thank you for having a good heart to take in a lil kitten !
2006-10-02 05:59:45 · answer #10 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋