i just broke up with my boyfriend of 1 and half years. i love him so much but feel that he may have betrayed my trust. i need to move on with my life at least for now. i don't know if or how he will cope...how can i test this
2006-10-02 05:47:25 · 16 answers · asked by getting married 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is not the time for "testing" him. If you need to move on, move on.
He can live without you if you let him. But if you always there he will lean on you and never live for himself. You are making him weak (and your self). Move on so he can be strong.
2006-10-02 05:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your job to mother this guy.
Move on with your life. Period.
If he betrayed your trust now he will do it again. And Again. AND AGAIN!
I see so many people here talk about broken relationships and whether they should stay in them. He was your boyfriend. Not your husband. You have no marriage vows to work on.
You need to work on yourself and trusting yourself and your decisions.
As for whether he can live without... think about that one... the man spent may years of his life without you and will spend many more surviving just fine.
Step back and think of an older couple, an older man you know. Perhaps an Uncle, Professor, Coach, even your President or Premier.... do you think they need someone to take care of them, a woman? Do you think these confident secure people stay in relationships of betrayal and deception? Politicians might becasue we expect them to work things out and be perfect... but regular folks do not.
The smartest, self-loving thing you said is that you need to Move on (get rid of the 'atleast for now'). Have yourself a good cry, listen to all your 'songs', reminesce about the good times and the bad... and then get up , out of your house and go do something.
Do something everyday, for yourself. Eventually the pain and upset feelings will grow fewer and farther between.
Just don't move backwards. Go forward... MOVE ON!
2006-10-02 12:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by AskD 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why are you worried about how he feels? Its not about him anymore he is out of your life. You need to let go and let him be so he can find someone else like should. Whats done is done and its all water under the bridge so leave well enough alone. Find someone new and live your life and enjoy it, he will be fine after he has gotten over the split, everyone has to have time to get over a broken relationship and your ex-fella is no different.
2006-10-02 12:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry he will cope and im sure he will move on just as quick haven't you heard the saying" the quicker to get over someone is to get under someone else, sorry if its too the point, if you still have feelings for him which i think you do, go and talk with him is this really what you want, can you handle seeing him with someone else? be sure.
2006-10-02 13:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Caro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him because you feel he "may" have betrayed his trust? If he did indeed betray your trust then don't worry about him. There's a reason you broke up with him, time to move on.
2006-10-02 12:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by goldiemcg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... If you have just broke up with him you are at a good start. If he calls you he misses you... Maybe ask him to go to the mall with you or something " Just as friends" If he trys hard then he loves you still and needs you.. If he just acts like he could care less dont bother with him.
2006-10-02 12:50:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly can't live without you, he isn't gunna just try to find another relationship. Even if he doesn't try to call you, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you, he could just be being stubborn. It also depends on what he did to betray your trust. I could answer better if i knew that.
2006-10-02 12:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by horsin1787 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not up to you to test if he will live without you or not. if he cant live without you then that's sick. if you broke up with him to test him, grow up. but if you broke up with him for legitimate reasons, then stand by your decision and move on. i mean what if you find out he can NOT live without you? what then? are you saying you'll cancel the break up!?!? grow up sweetie, it's called a break up cause the relationship is broken! staying with him because he isn't coping with the break up well is nuts!
2006-10-02 12:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about him you need to concentrate on yourself. If you look at your question you state"I need to move on with my life" and then you say "I dont know if or how he will cope" im sorry but they dont go together.Ditch the past onward and upward now
2006-10-02 12:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by Clarky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it doesnt kill you it makes you stronger. He will be stronger. The only way you dumping him would kill him is if he offed himself. If he is that much of a nut he needs more help than you are qualified to give. He will be fine dont worry.
2006-10-02 12:50:17 · answer #10 · answered by Hillary Dillary 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋