This weekend I drank so much alcohol I wasn't able to sustain an erection during sex on Sunday.
Keep in mind that I wasn't drunk on Sunday morning, just terribly hung over from Friday and Saturday night. I'm 22 and my partner is 20.
I'm not glorifying my binge drinking here at all but it was really kind of an awful experience and I'm wondering what my partner may have thought.
We haven't been together for very long at all and this sort of thing has never happened to me before. She didn't seem to mind as I put the blame on the rather large/wierd condom...which I do hold responsible though had I been 100% it would not have been a problem.
What do you think is going through her head right now?
I'm worried that she might think it's because of herself when really...it was pretty much all on me.
How should I approach the subject?
I feel shamed, jinxed and...I feel awful...so please no put downs but also... please don't sugarcoat your answer.
Thanks
2006-10-02 05:38:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Thanks for the good advice people, well save for Maria.
Her answer came off as if I was playing a dirty trick on this girl when really I was shocked and traumatized as much or more so than she was.
Still I followed everyone's advice and talked to her about it. I talked to my doctor first... she said that four days of drinking can do that to you which makes since given the way I actually FELT that morning. I simply called Ms. Doe and asked her if she was okay, I also told her the truth and she really did seem relieved.
Any way thanks for the answers if you're reading this.
-Lee
2006-10-03 14:34:14 · update #1
Talk to her frankly and tell her how you feel. She may be feeling a little rejected or inadequate. Alcohol consumption can cause temporary impotence. Approach the subject by saying what you said above. You're sorry, it was the booze, not her. Reassure her and tell her you've learned your lesson. Don't lie about anything if you want her to trust you. Drinking to excess is not cool.
I'm impressed by your mature attitude about this.
Granma
2006-10-02 05:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by The Gadfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are crazy. She probably has not thought about it since then!! If it comes up again, tell her it was the drinking, then you got embarassed, but that it has never been a problem before, and then leave it alone. If you dwell on it, it will become a problem. Any goofy, stupid thing she says is meant to assure you that she is ok with it. Don't take it wrong! Think of it this way, what goes through your head when she ask, "do I look fat in this?", that stammering you do is to try to find the right thing to say, when there is no right thing! Now she is on the spot!! Honestly, she will not care, but she wants you to be ok. We know how you guys feel, so that is what we worry about. Just let it go, and have another go at it tonight!
2006-10-02 05:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by jenn_a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have put the blame squarely where it belongs-- on you being an idiot and drinking that much. Cheap shot to blame the condom.
Yes, she probably is wondering if it's her . She's waiting for the next time-if everything goes allright, then enough said. If not, the two of you will have a lot to discuss.If the problem persists there's probably nothing you can do to prevent her thinking that the problem is with her. That said you should FOR SURE let her know it was the drinking.
2006-10-02 05:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Maria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really don't worry about it, these things happen. Sometimes the mind can be willing and the body just won't get with the program. You think us girls don't occasionally have problems? We don't always get wet despite best efforts, it's just that when it isn't happening for us it's easier to hide.
Just tell her that it was the first time it has happened, it wasn't expected and that hopefully it was a one-off. Chances are she is a lot less worried about it that you are, and I would bet that a lot of women have experienced that before and really don't stress about it.
2006-10-02 05:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 18:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by sory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly what you told us. The truth is always best.
2006-10-02 05:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋