ive been single for 6 years now and have real confidence problems im size 12 wear glasses blond and curvy .. my mates say im pretty good looking so why is it that after 6 years im still single and guys only want me for sex then get rid of me ? and how do i build up my confidence to get more people and men to like me as friends or more ! i need honest advice what do men look for in a partner and what draws people to want to be friends .. i have lots of friends but dont feel they want to know me all the time
2006-10-02 05:29:19 · 18 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my heart goes out to you , the problem is your confidence and its not something you get back over night, until you feel happy with yourself it wont come back. i know your friends say your pretty and i bet you are and a size 12 that's great.the right man is out there for you i promise he,s out there looking for you. it took me 10 years and i would not swap my husband for the world . good luck
2006-10-02 05:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by jackie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have a little confidence problem but it is up to you to fix that. What guy wants a woman you does not love herself. Star going to the gym and loose a couple of pounds which will help you with your outlook on your self, then go to the right places where you know there will be quality men there.
By the way men have become *** holes in the pass 10 years, not your fault.
2006-10-02 12:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by bthompsonusa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a close freind someone that will tell you that you look like crap when you do or someone that will tell you they dont like you shirt someone who will also build you up when you are down and be there for you when knowone else seems to be. And about your guy thing...... You should make a list of all you want in a guy and be really picky. This way when you do find him he is what you want. I personally like it when a girl make you feel that you are wanted and that they care deeply about me. Yes you can tell them that but unless you show it they will really never feel it. And dont get me wrong dont be obbsesive and wverwhelming but let them know. The next guy that you start talking to dont kiss him for a while just keep the whole physical aspect of a realtionship hidden. This way if he stays with you for a long time you knwo that he likes you for you and he doesnt just want to get in your pants. Thats all i can think of so good lucks and i hope that you find your prince charming and live happily ever after
2006-10-02 12:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by skateboarding is not a crime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little desparate and that is a huge turn off. One way to meet guys is do a pass time you really enjoy. Let's say it's, my favrite, photography, then join a photo club and you'll be surrounded by guys doing something you like and right off the bat have an opening topic for conservation.
Building confidence is key here. You can maybe smile at guys more and see the reaction you get. When someone smiles bac it will make your day.
2006-10-02 12:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is that confidence only comes from within.. Others do not give us confidence.. Only YOU can tell yourself that you're a worthy person... And as far as men, they can sense when a woman or any person for that matter has confidence.. The first thing they'll look for is that.. Believe me.. regardless of what anyone will tell you, confidence is key... To keep a guy, he has to know you DONT need him... He has to know that you will be fine with or without him.. (Ofcourse I'm talking merely from a "beginning relationship" standpoint.) You need to be a selfworthy person first before anyone can give you selfworth...
2006-10-02 12:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by KIm Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day you will be out and about and you will meet someone out of the blue without even looking.
I was out in a town i dont normally go to as my friend dragged me out. I was wearing casual clothing and didnt really want to be there. Then i spotted one of my colleagues and he introduced me to his friends.... one of whom is now my boyfriend and he is the most mature, understanding and sensitive man i have ever met. He is my best friend.
I was single for 4yrs... and not because im ugly or stupid, etc. In fact i am attractive with a great career... i had just been looking too hard and had too high expectations. Then i stopped looking and just worked hard and had fun with my friends and it didnt matter to me that i was single. I got promoted at work and brought my own house. I think this confidence and happiness was what was attracted my man. In fact he didnt approach me for ages as he thought i was out of HIS league!!!
Its a cliche.... but if you stop looking, and just enjoy life.... he will find you.
2006-10-02 12:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by CorporalPickles. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sleeping with men in a casual way and start to build up the friendship side first. Start to respect yourself, whilst still being chatty and friendly. Don't give out until they are hooked. If they are keen they will wait. If they won't, they're not worth it.Maybe you give out the wrong signals. I dare you to become a brunette, and see what happens.
2006-10-02 12:39:01 · answer #7 · answered by feebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry hun-if men dont want u 4 u why would u want them anyway? ur worth more than that! just be proud and confident of who you are,every1s special and im sure u are! when you least expect it hun some1 will come along and want and love you 4u and you will 4get about all them losers who have hurt u and passed you by! 1day it will happen untill then just have fun lifes too short,be brave be proud be yourself and keep smiling the world will smile with u! lotsa luv x
2006-10-02 12:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lots of girls r curvy and were glasses u must give in 2 easy men like easy going girls who r up for a laugh but will also take wot ever is on offer
2006-10-02 13:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by ronnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i find u low on self esteem, firstly u nee to go for a make over, then do things u enjoy like join a dance/painting/language class,reading club, travel around the world. U will meet interesting people, who r like u and always be happy,cheers
2006-10-02 12:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by P S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋