From my experience if I tell someone as soon as I meet them,
they will turn off. I personally try not to say too many
negative things before you meet soemone or when you r dating them early, until you have a relation with them first- otherwise
you may loose them and once you get to know her- she may be
ok. If she asked me I would volunteer , but I don't think
its wise to volunteer too many negatives esp. at
the begining unles asked
What does everyone think ???????
2006-10-02 05:27:15 · 5 answers · asked by don;t know 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you date someone, don't bring it up unless they ask. If it's a serious relationship, then a time will come when they want to know everything. It's OK to share. I think it's good to keep it light and hold back on tossing out all the negatives of your previous relationship. After all ... Your moving forward, turning a new page. If you have hang ups, counseling is good to work through them so that you can move on and be happy. Best Wishes.
2006-10-02 05:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for about a year and I have found it is best just to be yourself and that would include being honest about your past relationships. Much sooner than later the subject is going to come up, especially if you looking at somebody to potentially have a relationship with. You don't want to go up to a woman and say, "hi, my name is Bob and I am divorced", but I feel if the subject is broached sooner than later, that this works the best. Unfortunately, being divorced isn't that uncommon any more. It was a bit odd at first saying I was divorced, but it is a fact of life. It is what it is and if anybody is going to get turned off by the fact that you were married and subsequently divorced, then perhaps that person isn't somebody you would want to start a relationship with. If they are that narrow minded about one aspect of your life, how many other areas are they going to be judgemental about. I am 34 and spent 10 years with my ex (five married, 5 not) and I considered my divorce as a chance for a new life, a learning experience, not a mistake. Live and learn amigo.
2006-10-02 12:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by willie72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell them right off you are single but don't reveal to much info at first.If you are only separated and not getting back together then I would tell them you are separated. because you gon't want to get their hopes up of some sort of relationship if you are not ready or able to commit. As you get to know the person I would tell them you are divorced. Some times to much information is too much. If you think the conversation is going well then you slowly reveal more about your self.
2006-10-02 12:32:56 · answer #3 · answered by pugaboo03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't volunteer too much information at the beginning either
2006-10-02 12:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got to laugh alittle, cry alittle, break down and smile a little , thats the story of, that's the glory of love! (wink)
2006-10-02 12:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋