Ok, i'm friends with this guy at my school, and we talk at football games, in the hallway, and in class, but we never hang out. When we do talk, its either some sort of innuendo. Or him telling me that i'm a dumb blonde. like okay the other day we were at a football game and we went to the concession stand to get food and I was like "I hope they have banana's like they did last time" and he looked at me and was like "i've got a banana for you" and just stuff like that. I dont know if we're just friends or if he's just being a guy? When we talk we have actual conversations and we somewhat click. Now, you're probably just going to say "ask him" but I cant do that . I need a plan B.
2006-10-02 05:25:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
forgot the age tidbit were both 17
2006-10-02 05:36:06 · update #1
The next time you're alone together ask him this: "Have you ever thought that we'd make a good couple?" It's a little risky, but not much. You can back out of it easily if he says "no".
2006-10-02 05:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He may want you as a girlfriend and more but doesn't know how to tell you. But one thing: he's not quite "grown-up" yet, so you will definitely have some problems with him unless you take control and be assertive. Let him know that life is not all jokes and games and that you don't always have time for "clowning". If you continue to let him act like a clown, your life with him (if it happens) will be a circus. Laugh at SOME of his jokes if they are funny, but let him know when he needs to be serious. And don't let him think that you feel inferior to him. Let him know that you can take him or leave him. And by all means, don't let him think that you're easy or that you desperately need him - even if you do. But look at the whole picture: Are you attracted to him because he listens to you, or because he's cute, or because he's funny?
And when you catch him in one of those moods where he's acting a little goofy, stop him and ask him what he thinks about the friendship that you two have. And keep him explaining. Write down some good questions to ask. Make him be serious and explain to you why he's so goofy sometimes. He'll come around. If he doesn't - you need to chill or just keep being friends.
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2006-10-02 12:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One, he's just being a guy. And yes, he would count as a friend, and he does seem like he's flirting with you. And another thing to do is just continue what you are doing with him now. But, maybe surprise him and ask him out and if he says no, just be like "alright, it's cool." If yes, then there ya go. This would be great cause you guys have the same interests and seem to get along great. Good luck!
*Rae*
2006-10-02 12:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by animegirl769z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont complicate matters with a plan. He wont get it anyway.
Simply speak up girl. Ask him what he means by some of his snide remarks. You dont need to be rude about it (as he is being)
Keep e/thing out in the open. And see if he's capable of understanding ANYTHING.
BTW, if you're spending time together, TALKING, then I'd say that meets the definition of hanging out.
2006-10-02 12:32:50 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt tell how old you or the boy is. The statement about how he has a banana for you , sounded sexual, and if you are not into that, I would be caustious . If you are young, it could be he is flirting with you , making smartass comments, to get your attention. It sounds like he is interested, but not sure for what reasons..Take your time, get to know each other well and the answers will come to you..good luck
2006-10-02 12:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by lynda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!!
I think u shouldn't ask this as that may be a knee-jerk reaction of him, give a observation. N u actually u will come out iwth the same conclusion that man will remain men. So instead of asking him say him that u know what he wanna say,. N u know, actually, biologicallly u r opposite in sex, if u were a guy u wouldn't have taken this that much seriously....isn't it!!
2006-10-02 12:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Viv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much respect their going on...so smile and smack him next time he says such things...even if you invited it with your words. He's not dumb and knew you were flirting with him. Do wait until he asks you out though....I suspect he wont or he would have made more from the situation...like hand-holding stuff and making more of an effort. Slapstick humor is rife with some guys...it doesnt mean they are into you.
2006-10-02 12:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does this sound like? It sounds like a guy who maybe sees you as an acquaintance and someone he would like to have casual sex with. Most guys at that age don't befriend girls unless there's something they can get out of it. Trust me. The casual conversations are a way to get to know you better AND get your guard down so that you can see him as a "nice guy".
Be careful.
2006-10-02 12:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes a guy who is being your friend. He hasnt made a move and he hasnt asked you out. He doesnt call you to just BS.
2006-10-02 12:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dumb blonde? I think you need to find someone that will respect you. Don't allow anyone to talk to you that way otherwise they will think its ok and treat you as if you are garbage---don't just settle. Lots of luck
2006-10-02 12:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋