We've been dating for the past one year but he still doesn't me. I'm very worried and it really affecting me both physically and spiritually. Is there any advise for me.
Many thanks
2006-10-02 05:19:19 · 22 answers · asked by Lady pee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm afraid that's something that he has to cope with himself. He sounds like he's insecure about himself and lacking in confidence and self-esteem. Talk to him and let him know how this makes you feel both physically and spiritually and that trust is one of the virtues needed in a grounded Marriage and without that one cannot survive and function. Best of luck to you!!!!
2006-10-02 05:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...This can turn out to be a very difficult situation in the future.
There is the distint possiblity that issues of trust stem from past experiences where trust has been placed but eventually been betrayed.
He may well love you but could he be just displaying feelings of insecurity? In my experience as a counsellor such relationships may well end up being co-dependent and possesive where possesion becomes the dominant feature. The one with the trust issues ends up as a stalker, exerting power over their partner to the point where the partner becomes totaly submissive to the will of the dominant one. It is common for such a relationship to end up being violent, both physicaly and verbally.
There is another issue that is possible, but only you would know the answer. It is common for a person who has "Strayed" to end up thinking that because they have done wrong, their partner could be doing the same. This Guilt transferance deflects from their own misbehaviour. Its a bit like the thief acusing another of theft so nobody notices the loot in their own pockets.
Trust and love do mean exactly the same thing.
In the end you are the one to decide whether the relationship is worth continuing with.
2006-10-02 19:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl, if you don't have his trust and you know very well that you should then maybe u don't need to look into yourself for an answer. Maybe you should give him a taste of his own medicine to get an anwer! Guys usualy miraculously loose trust when the guilt inside themselves is too great to handle. They feel like this, "O.K. i love her, but I want to mess around too, so if I'm capable of loving her and cheating, then why wouldn't she?" Then comes the loss of trust without any help from you! Try it, results are garaunteed!
2006-10-02 05:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Mocha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not be marrying someone who does not trust you. TRUST is a very important aspect of a relationssip. it is like the spine.
imagine what your marriage would be like if he doesnt trust you!
tell him he need to get a grip. you have been together for a year! there is no reason he should not trust you by now. tell him he needs to work on his problem or you wont marry him.
lack of trust is no way to start a marriage. it will only make you miserable that the person you love and married doesnt trust you.
2006-10-02 05:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have some advise. I would ask you why he is your fiance in the first place. Trust is the #1 building block of any relationship, but you don't even have that. I would ask you what your relationship is built on then.
2006-10-02 05:22:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man honey, dont listen to all them others who is buggin! You should talk to him and ask him why he dont trust you! Have you done anyhting to make him act that way? Yeah i belive in without trust there cant be love. But maybe he is just paranoid that because ya'll have been together for a while and he is afraid that you are gonna get tired of him!! Well good luck with what you decide!! Good luck and God bless you!
2006-10-02 06:08:10 · answer #6 · answered by daddy's lil princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you marring him!? Trust and communication is key to a good relationship. If you dont have trust you cant have a healthy relationship. Love wont be strong enough if your partner doesnt trust you. You cant do nothing about it, its all on him. There is nothing you can say or do that will make him change his mind. If he doesnt trust you may be its because he is out and doing things that he shouldnt.
2006-10-02 05:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixchickNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he not able to trust you because of something you did while with him? Something you did in the past? Or is not being able to trust you because of a past relationship of his? .... if the trust isn't there then there isn't alot of hope for a lasting, loving, true relationship. You should seriously think about moving on.... Good luck to you. Take care
2006-10-02 05:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No trust,no love!As u said it's affecting u and u not even married!Talk about it,try n c if u can sort things out,if not,there's no need2b 2gether.Sorry
2006-10-02 05:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by soft heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is having a trust issue, why are the two of you engaged to begin with? If you don't have trust than you don't have anything. Maybe it isn't meant for the two of you two be together.
2006-10-02 06:02:01 · answer #10 · answered by pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋