My on/off bf would call me late in the evening asking me if I wanted to go over to his place. I refused twice, saying I'm not at his beck and call. And don't use me when he's bored.
He said he was trying to be nice... WTF does he mean? How does that translate to being nice to me?
2006-10-02 05:14:04 · 14 answers · asked by Nemrac666 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thank you, people, you always make me see things from a clearer perspective and gives me strength when I needed most. Thanks all!!!
2006-10-02 05:27:03 · update #1
BTW, we don't always have sex when we do meet up in the evening. That's why I asked WTF.
2006-10-02 05:28:21 · update #2
He's trying to make you feel guilty so he will continue to have you on reserve as his booty call. Nothing more than that. If he was trying to be nice, he'd call you in advance, pick you up and take you out to dinner or a movie or a club or whatever, tell you how pretty you look and treat you like he's lucky to be with you! That's how you treat someone nice. If he actually thinks he's being nice by letting you get scre**d by him, he's just so messed up, you're best to run fast and far.
2006-10-02 05:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this translates to is that you are his booty call. He has already gone out with another girl and she didn't put out or he wasn't satisfied with the sex so now you are his "go to" girl for his sexual gratification.
And... the best thing about this is there is nothing wrong with that.. as long as you know, understand, and don't mind being his booty call.
the good thing about being a booty call for someone is that you are free to date other guys and do whatever and always know that a few times a week you can always get your (and his) needs met!!!
The only reallly important thing you need to understand though is that this guy is NOT your bf. he's just a guy that you sleep with every once in while - nothing else.
2006-10-02 12:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! Stick to it and keep refusing! It's just going to make him want you more! You always want what you can't have!! I think his comment about being nice was the only come back he could think of at the time! He wasn't going to admit to you that you were right and he was just using you as a booty call!!
2006-10-02 12:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Booty call you are not at his beck and call!!! Good move way to tell him!!!! Plain and simple he thinks he is being nice but that's not nice!! you are right. Find someone new who wants to be with you all the time not just after 10:00 when he is horny and alone. Unless that's the type or relationship you want to have right now.
2006-10-02 12:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by pugaboo03 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, thats a booty call! You should want better for yourself and move on! The best payback is happieness! Go out there and find a real man that wants to see you all the time, not just when he wants sex!
2006-10-02 12:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he basically only sees you as a booty call.
its not like he is going to say that whats he likes you for.
tell him if he wants to be nice to take you out not ask you to come over on some late night.
2006-10-02 12:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by kt_thoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is a jerk and you don't think he is giving you your due respect, please move on with life and dump him.
He is not worth your time nor youth anymore. You are better off being free and swinging bachelorette.
2006-10-02 12:20:49 · answer #7 · answered by cloudd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion.... he was horny. But, that would be a guess on my part. You did the right thing and told him how you felt. Good luck to you
2006-10-02 12:17:54 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hes just a jerk who wants to screw you stay away from him.
2006-10-02 12:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by dream_harts 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's so using you. just stay away from him.
2006-10-02 12:20:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋