How do you mend a broken heart?

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Thanks you guys, i know there is a light at the end of the tunnel, its just getting there. Your answers have made me feel better though, going out with the girls tonight.
Thanks everyone x

Answer 1

Time, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, its a bitter pill to swallow when its fresh, but every knock I have had has hopefully taught me something and made me better prepared when I meet miss world and she falls in love with me.

Answer 2

Keep busy, do things that you enjoy that you are good at to boost your self esteem. Laugh. Spend time with friends. Be glad for the time you spent together. You are supposed to have your heart broken three times and break three hearts before you get married.... so you are that much closer. Take some classes. Go dancing. Get a new boyfriend. Don't get so serious about boyfriends. YOu didnt say how old you are but many say that a 21 yr old is too young to date exclusively. You are supposed to meet many people and date different boys to find what types of personalities you like best. If you are under 21 and were dating one boy then that is why your heart is broken. You should have been with a chess guy one weekend, a movie with a nerd the next week. Dinner with a jock the next. Men are like cars. When your motor blows up in the one you have do you cry? (maybe a little) but soon after you go GET A NEW CAR. no big deal. have a lot of friends. dont get hung up on one inparticular... make your education job and life YOUR focus and then be happy with YOURSELF... eventually you WILL fall in love with someone who deserves it... now to save you from future heartaches... look for red flags like jealousy and anger or disrespect and dump him at th efirst sign... also have at least a one year engagement GOOD LUCK I always find that when I am sad, for whatever reason, a nice hair trim, pedicure, bubble bath, tooth bleaching at the dentist and cup of tea helps me. At least if I am not happier, ILL BE LOOKING SO FINE!!!!!!
Have some pen pals. Youre supposed to have at least TEN social outlets school church family and work is one now you need nine more.

Answer 3

Wish I knew how-taken 3 years for mine to heal and it doesnt hurt anymore but will always bear the scars.
Hurt and pain get easier with time but you gotta get there yourself and can only do that when you are ready. I listened to all the advice in the world then felt bad because I wasnt `cured` as quickly as others had been.
As with any kind of suffering, you emerge stronger and wiser but that doesnt help when you`re really feeling the pain. I used to think people should get a grip after relationship break ups-had no sympathy as had never been there myself. Got to the age of 48 happy and with my heart intact and given to one special person.
Boy, did I suffer!
They say we are all here on this earth to learn-well. I learned! I previously believed that there is always something positive to take from every experience and, though its taken a long time, I still believe that.

My almost repaired heart goes out to anyone who feels theirs is broken............it will get better enough to move on eventually......

Answer 4

It isn't easy.

I am still working on it and have a very long way to go. Here is my current thinking.

1) Forgive the one who hurt you. It helps to tell them that directly, but it isn't required. You might feel that you're just letting them off the hook, but forgiveness works for the forgiver as well as the forgiven. If you can't forgive them, then you are going to carry the anger and hurt until you do.

2) Forgive yourself. We are 50% of the relationship that hurt us. You may have done nothing wrong. Even so, I think it is likely that we blame ourselves for not leaving sooner, for not doing our absolute best, or for just being so stupid, or vulnerable, or too trusting or ... If you did do something wrong, forgive yourself for that and learn why you did it so that you don't do it again.

3) Practice trusting again. That's what a broken heart really is, IMHO, a fear of trusting people again -- either because we afraid of what they might do or of what we might do.

All of these things are choices we can make. The sooner we can make them, the sooner we can move on.

Isn't easy.

Answer 5

First of all, acknowledge that what you are going through is hard. Give yourself permission to grieve. However, if you allow yourself to dwell on the difficulty of the break-up, you just replace one addiction with another, this one much less enjoyable. Make a serious effort to involve yourself in projects and activities, and immerse yourself in other people. Talk to your friends about the break-up, but talk to them about other things, too. Even if you don't want to, forcing yourself to get out and concentrate on other things will get you on the right track to feeling like yourself again.

You will never get over him if you let yourself daydream about getting back together. Delete him from your cell phone, and don't even think about clicking on his myspace profile. It's a good idea to get rid of everything that reminds you of him to help yourself realize that that phase in your life is over.

No calls. No sightings. No friendship. You need at least three months with absolutely no contact before you can even think about starting a friendship, and it often takes much longer

Answer 6

Time ....

Try to distract your self from thinking about it. I know its hard but try to stay busy all day. Friends, family, school, work, shopping etc. (go apply for a credit card and rack up that bill hun). Go out and have a drink or 2 or 3 but not too many.

When my heart got broken 2 years ago....i had to take NyQuil EVERY NIGHT to go to sleep. When i woke up was the worst...reality would hit and i would know that "today i am not going to see my love and I'm going to be all alone" i would cry. I would have to force myself to get up and continue throughout the day. I know its hard but make sure not to watch any "LOVE STORY" movies for awhile.

Answer 7

with time babe-just go out and live cus lifes 4 living and when u least expect some1 or something better comes along.it gets easier every day be brave and keep smiling cus u will wake up 1day and your broken heart will be gone!
why dont u have girly nights out,watch funny films,keep busy with things you love 2do and have some chocolate-its a girls best friend!
take care x

Answer 8

Time. Time is the only thing that can heal you. Think of all the positive things you have in your life, think of the future you will have and work on that. Work on yourself to become a better person. Once you find happiness within yourself, Outter happiness will follow.

Answer 9

the most popular answer to your question would be time. but for me i took about a month, depends on how much it hurts.

other alternatives would be not seeing the other party who broke your heart for a long time, hang out with your best friends more often, do what you like to do. for me, as long as i don't see the other party for a long time, eventually you will feel a lot better.

Answer 10

A broken heart mends gradually by itself ,it may take a long time bit will heal in time .