He was caught shoplifting on Sunday and my husband and I said, "That's it. You rarely get spanked - it's been a couple of years - but you've earned one." He thinks he's too old. He says it was just a joke and he didn't mean any harm. What's the opinion of the readers? He's in sixth grade.
2006-10-02 04:58:34 · 31 answers · asked by Sarah L 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My daughter is 11. I can tell you if she shoplifted she would get a spanking, and probably a pants-downer as well. That would be followed by a long period of trust rebuilding.
11 is not too old. Shoplifting is serious.
2006-10-02 14:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Hi I am still a child, eleven like your son! Yes, I think he deserves a spanking. I would say take him to a place with a chair. Either you or him will pull his pants down (YOU will choose weather he is allowed to remain in his underwear or not) then he will bend over your knee. When he is laid/bent across your legs/knee you will discuss why he is getting the spanking and you will not do the spank(s) until he admits he deserve one. Then, spank/smack his bottom with your bear hands; if you do not want to do this with your bear hands, use an object, I'd recommend a wooden spoon! A couple of smacks on each bottom-cheek will surely do the job! Then ground him for one month, smacking him for his crime weekly. This is what I think (personally) I deserve if I committed this crime. As I said, I'm eleven and I usually get pants-downers xx
2014-05-04 03:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry - why would you ask his opinion?? Wear him out!!!!!!
If he is shoplifting, that's a pretty serious problem - even if it was "a joke" - he needs to understand his actions have very serious consequences. Spanking isn't enough here - he also needs to be grounded & restricted for a long long time. Whomever he was hanging with needs to be locked out of his life for now, too - sounds like they may have been a bad influence. Another few years & his actions would result in jail time & a record - does he understand that?! My son gets whippins when he needs them - & if he did something like shoplifting, wouldn;t be a discussion about it, I'd just be whaling him - not a problem for me!!! Bring him in line now, before he gets much older, folks.
Good luck - & remember YOU are the parents, YOU make the decisions - if he doesn't like them, then he can either tuff it out or straighten up.
p.s. - By the way, I was 14 when I got my last spanking - not ashamed to admit this. No, my mother didn't "beat" me until I had welts or anything, but the humiliation of being spanked at that age was serious punishment & changed my attitude then & there. My son is 11 & understands that he will get a spanking if he deserves it - just the mention of it usually works on his attitude jjust fine - no need to do it, just remind him . . .
2006-10-02 05:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Eleven is not to old !!! Stealing is no JOKE !!!!!!! Serious consequences should be taken . Not only would I spank him but I would also take all games , computer , anything of value to him away for a week or so . Maybe that will change his tune . Show him how stealing makes others feel . Theft can become an addiction I have seen it first hand my younger sister did it all the time just for the adrenalin rush . And she was of age . After seeing her do it once I have never been in a store with her since . And like any addiction it just gets worse with no help . It will go from stealing from stores to stealing from you then even bigger B&E . Then that leads to prison . My sister did get help by the way . So please don't let him think stealing is something to joke about .
2006-10-02 05:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion spanking being rare with my children too, being a 6th grader he's prbably right. My 6 year old doesn't get spanked any more because he thinks its a joke. the only way it would work is if I hurt him and why on earth would I want him thinking these hands are for pain instead of for hugs? To me a spanking is for a 2-4 year old as a way of getting their attention, not hurting their bottom. With my six year old we use his time with his friends and video game time as punishment. But with this situation of your son breaking the law its important that he understands the rules. I would 100% for sure make him spend a day working at a homeless shelter with his father. a saturday of serving the needs of the homeless, and a whole day with his father could be exactly what he needs. We as teenagers have two choices,
1. Learn to be responsible and understand our actions impact others.
2. Learn that society could care less what we as an individual do and think that "every one" is doing the same action we're guilty of.
Teaching him humility without tying it to the crime (shoplifting won't make you homeless) will give him a sense of pride. Teaching that when we make mistakes we can over come it and be a better person is an important life lesson. I as a younger man smoke large amounts of marijuana. My parents asked me and I was honest with them. They didn't tell me I'd become a loser if i continued to smoke, they pointed out nothing happens without an effect, could this be a positive or a negitive? it made a huge impact on me.
so, I would sit him down and reinforce what he already knows, stealing is wrong and someone has to pay for it. then, tell him "son, we're not punishing you for stealing because you know how wrong it is and what could happen if you do it again. But, this weekend you and your father are going to go work at a homeless shelter serving meals and helping others in need to make up for who you may have hurt by stealing"
I hope everything works out well for you and yur family, what you do now will effect you and your son for the rest of your time.
2006-10-02 05:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what he thinks? The two of you are his parents and you decide what is best for him.He may not like it now but one day he will appreciate the fact that the two of you cared enoug to instill discipline and values in him. And shoplifting is something that has to come to a quick stop or it will get out of control quickly.I went to high school with a few girls who had serious shoplifting addictions and one even ended up in jail over it.I myself never stole.Why? Because I knew my parents wouldnt hesitate to deliver some old fashioned discipline whether I was 6 or 16. I was a teenager the last time I received a spanking by the way.Love both my parents with all my heart.
2006-10-03 14:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie1204 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all who cares what he thinks? He should have no say in what his punishment will be.
Second, the fact that he says it is a "joke" sounds like trying to talk his way out of it. This makes me think since it something he really dosen't want--it is what you should do--since unpleasantness is what punishment is all about.
Third, in my opinion there is no way he is too old for a spanking
Fourth, this is a serious situation. In a few years if the authorities have to deal with the problem it will be consequences much more severe than a spanking. Do what you can to nip it in the bud.
If you do spank him--make sure it is not a joke. I am not advocating beating him. But if he was mine he would be getting a paddling on his bare fanny--and it would be a paddling that would stick out in his mind for a long time to come.
2006-10-02 07:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
punishment. i'm sorry, in spite of the undeniable fact that it sounds like this lady became spoiled. you may desire to take a seat her down, lay down the regulation, and if she breaks it, she get's grounded, laptop taken away, and so on. she would desire to be respectful, she's sufficiently old 2 kno extra desirable. if she says some thing nasty 2 u, tell her off. u shouldn't positioned up with that habit. as 4 mendacity, any time she lies, only say, i can't have faith u anymore, and don't if she's consistently mendacity, u don't have 2 have faith her each and every of the time. if she rebels against your new punishments, provide her the chilly shoulder for a mutually as (seing as you won't be able to spank or provide an 11 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old an afternoon out, that would desire to be creepy). Jsust do not communicate over along with her. my suggestion would look harsh 2 some, in spite of the undeniable fact that it could b the only thank you to getting her to act. u have 2 nip this in the bud, or it gets worse and worse over the years desire this facilitates! lillian
2016-10-18 08:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably not too old. If you have doubts, then take something away; ground him. You should be the ones who decide not him. You can give him choices but make sure it's going to have an impact. If he is into sports or hobbies, just shut his life down. Give him chores make sure he does them. If none of this works then consider spanking. Whatever you do you are the parents and he is the kid, he needs to know this.
2006-10-02 05:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by doktordbel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think kids are never to old to get a spanking. When my children turned 16-18 Iwould not spank them, but I took things away, not going with friends for a while. They did extra chores around the house. And no phone that really killed them. Punishment works better on my children.
2006-10-02 05:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋