gone off of sex she still loves me but dont know why she never in the mood and i have to do abit of DIY
anyone sugest how to get her back in the mood again
2006-10-02 04:47:11 · 21 answers · asked by stephen d 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
take her away on a romantic trip-no kids, try not to pressurise her, have fun like you used to
2006-10-02 04:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the pressure off her a bit, give her lots of love and affection when youre not in bed, lots of kisses and cuddles and let her know how much you love her every day.
how about taking her out for a romantic evening to somewhere thats special to both of you that will bring back happy memories.
maybe she is feeling insecure about her body? has she had a baby, or put on some weight?
are there any other problems in your relationship that need addressing? as this may put her off sex as it is more of an emotional act for a woman and more of a physical act for a man.
i think the best thing you can do is give her support , be patient and dont make an issue of it.
if it carries on long term and she feels that she has a physical problem she should speak to her doctor in case she has hormonal problems.
2006-10-02 12:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be subtle and explain that there is obviously a problem and can the two of you work together to get something back that you miss! Try complementing her about her body and how you love being with her that way, make her feel sexy and really wanted! but when you first start doing this, don't make the conversation always being about getting into bed straight away or she'll know what your up to and just ignore your complements! If it goes on then remind her that a relationship is about two people and shes being selfish!
2006-10-02 11:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you mean w**king because women hate men doing diy that puts us off sex for sure! I say bring back the romance works a treat on us girls and help you out too. Good Luck.
2006-10-02 12:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl and i know this would work for me. Surprise her with a really special evening that she won't forget. If you've got kids, send them to someone's house for the night, then fill a room with candles and scented oils and fairy lights. Firstly, surprise her with dinner, then think of a reason for her to go into the room. She'll be totally surprised. Then, follow her up, and suggest giving her a massage or something. Then see where it leads to. Make sure she's happy with it all though, and that she feels special. Good luck.
2006-10-02 11:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by lizie159 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get here to be very happy. Try it from several angles. Good news, good friends, good evening or date, good meal, compliments. Not just one or two of these things, but all of them. And try to do it on a saturday and when she's in a good mood. It all equals higher probabitlity of doing it. Also, look good, smell, and dress well, also do things that might impress her. Kindness, going out of your way for someone else. It breaks the montony and she looks at you in a different light. Might work.
2006-10-02 11:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by mpizzo616 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi me and my husband went through this not so long ago, i throught he was having an affair (but he was'nt) he was just really depressed , he went off sex said he did'nt want it with me any more, one night out of the blue i put a dvd on, sat there naked , then i got out the body oils and started rubbing oils all over him, well you can guess the rest, he comes in from work and drags me upstairs now. but befor you do anything try asking whats up, have you done anything to make her worry about anything, it could be just a simple thing best wishes and good luck xx
2006-10-02 11:55:52 · answer #7 · answered by ssldavey2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may b she is angry with u? if so give her chocolate, sweet, big cards and take her out for a candle night dinner that very romantique that would plz her and may be she will be satisfied with your great effort and with b in the mood of doing sex... hey bathing together that very nice i think she would love it alot...
2006-10-02 11:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by giri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone else is getting her in the mood (bless her dirty heart)..... The next time you make love to her maybe you should try "f*ucking" her instead. Really get her off and she will want sex all the time.
2006-10-02 11:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Submit to her Feet 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be patient. It could be a hormonal thing. Is she on the pill? That can sometimes be the cause. Is she breastfeeding? That could also be another reason.
2006-10-02 11:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by jofrancisc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her. Reassure her. Don't take her for granted. Be supportive. Stop thinking of your own needs and put her needs first for a while
2006-10-02 11:51:06 · answer #11 · answered by trog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋