These people live directly across the street from me. Their son confessed and we are not scheduled for trial until November. How am I supposed to live across the street from these people for another month without losing my cool? BY THE WAY - they rent that house whereas I own my home!
2006-10-02 04:45:43 · 32 answers · asked by Christy 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
UPDATE - the parents are telling people that their son (10 yrs old) was just playing doctor with my baby (3 yrs old)! So they are not planning on moving when their lease is up in November. My daughter is in counceling and doing remarkably well, but she can't fully heal until she is no longer confronted with them EVERYDAY!
2006-10-02 04:59:03 · update #1
I am sorry to hear that. The best thing for you is to not have any sort of contact with them. Don't even look their way. Seriously avoid them, for now. Keep a close on your daughter. (I am sure you do that already)
Once he is actually convicted of this molestation, I would do as another suggested and have a petition...or talk directly to the owner of the house. Right now, from a strangers point of you, its just an accusation. But when you have the conviction proof in your hand..that is priceless and anyone with any sense would be on your side. Nobody wants a convicted sex offender living near their family.
2006-10-02 04:52:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mystie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like the idea that someone else suggested of starting a petition, however I would wait until after the trial because you don't want to get in trouble for slander. November is only a few short weeks away, as unfair as it is just deal with it until then.
Once the trial has started, I would definitely contact the landlord and pass the info along to as many neighbors as possible without jeapordizing the trial and getting in trouble for slander.
I don't think you should have to move! They should, but if you are truly unhappy about it then you may look into selling your house.
I would also a discreetly as possible let other people that have little girls or even little boys what happened to your daughter so that it doesn't happen to another child again.
2006-10-02 06:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. This must be tough. Does their landlord know? I would seriously consider informing the landlord. This may be a reason for eviction and would thus help you in your dilemma. I don't have a legal background, though, so I don't know what the proper procedure would be. Get advice from your lawyer, and if you aren't completely satisfied with his/her answers, get a second opinion. However, I don't think you should have to move. You and your daughter are the victims here! In the time being, avoid contact at all costs until the trial. You don't want it to come up in court that you've been harassing this boy or his family because it won't look good.
2006-10-02 04:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um Im not sure what state your in but he should of had to report with the sherrifs department as a register sex offender which means if your daughter is the vistim he is not suppose to be anywhere around her or any other child at that. You need to contact you attorneys and the sherrifs department and see what can be done about this, also see if you can get an order for protection for your daughter (restraining order). Also ask your attorney if you are able to contact the person who rents the house out to them and explain what is going on and u feel unsafe with the tenant, But always ask you attorney before you do things on your own.
2006-10-02 04:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Christina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you can really do anything but avoid them. Do you feel that he is still a threat to your daughter? If so, you might be able to get a restraining order, but that would only help if their house isn't too far from yours. You are really in a bad position and I feel sorry for you. Talk to your attorney and see if they have any suggestions. I know that someone is innocent until proven guilty, but if he's confessed then I don't know. You also might speak to the owner of the house. You don't mention the age of the son. Is he a minor who must live with his parents, or is he an adult child still living at home? Good luck, and I hope you are getting counseling for your daughter. She needs to know that it is not her fault.
2006-10-02 05:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Dear Lady, I'am very sorry for what had happened to your daughter and family. I know that this is hard for your daughter and your whole family and you have my sympathy. My recommendation to you is to move out of your neighborhood as soon as possible because if you and your family stay you will never have peace of mind, remember is not only the agressor but the rest of the neighborhood. In this cases some of them will back you up but some of them will be against your daughter. So is best to move and have a new start for the whole family. Right now who owned or live rented is not important your tranquility for your daughter and your family should come first. Good luck.
2006-10-02 05:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just avoid them as much as possible until the trial, there is not much else you can do, except pray that you don't lose your cool, their son admitted to the crime, just be patient and hope all goes well for your daughter. I am sorry you and your family have to go through this hell, hopefully there will be justice served. Peace.
2006-10-02 04:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe they don't want to move. Wether they feel that their son did it or not, they should move anyway. Your daughter has obviously been affected by it, and as parents, they should understand that. I feel so bad for you. I agree with the others that say contact the landlord. If he / she is a descent person they will move 'em out. Good luck and hang in there.
2006-10-03 08:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by fusillicandace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an order of protection and wait patiently. Even if they are renters there is nothing you can do. The landlord has to have a reason to evict and unfortunately this isn't one a judge will look at. How old is the boy and how old is your daughter?
2006-10-02 04:57:32 · answer #9 · answered by mlpntr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe the parents encouraged the boy to molest your daughter or told him it was okay?
Have they offered any apologies? They may be mortified and having as much trouble with you being across from them as you do. If they rent while you own I suspect they will be moving as soon as possible. I also will bet the son lied to them and claims it was mutual. Everyone loves their children and they may believe that.
2006-10-02 04:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by Robert P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋