Ok i'm 16 almost 17 and never had a boyfriend. Its not because i'm not attractive either. Blonde air blue eyes, rockin bod. the only reason I can think I donnt have one yet is because I'm too selective. I'm looking for a christian guy, who's decent looking, funny, gets good grades and has a future. I dont wanna date anyone who's going to end up in prison or become a janitor basicly. Am I too oung to already have a list, or am I doing the right thing?
2006-10-02 04:40:27 · 23 answers · asked by Blonde ambition 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there are a lot of guys out there like that. go to college and you can choose whoever you want. don't lower your standards because "everyone else is doing it".
2006-10-02 04:42:20 · answer #1 · answered by ashley f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're never too young to have a list, but keep in mind that at 17, most guys aren't the same people they'll be when they're 21, and at 21 a lot of guys are not the same person they'll be when they're 25. A lot changes in that time. The Christian who is decent looking, funny, gets good grades and "has a future" right now at 17 might be an agnostic, lazy, fat, drunk man when he's 21 after he doesn't get the football scholership he was counting on, and a thin, dedicated, well studied Buddhist monk by 25 after he "hears his calling." I admire your list, but it might mean you're celibate through collage. But if you're celebate through collage, you will be more attractive to that kind of man then.
2006-10-02 11:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely doing the RIGHT thing by being selective and choosy about whom you date. You will be one of the lucky girls who doesn't end up a statistic in teen pregnancy and lagging grades.
Too much emphasis is placed on dating in the teen years, when in truth guys aren't really ready or capable of being good partners at that age. That's not to say that there aren't some guys who can handle dating, but in general....their maturity and self control aren't where a girl of the same age might be.
I say "Good For You!" God will bring the right boy along for you and when that happens you will not have to worry about anything you might have been involved with or done in the past. You will be both physically and emotionally pure for that special boy.
Having a "list", might not be the best thing... BUT knowing what you will and won't put up with and knowing what character traits you want, definately IS a good thing :)
Good Luck!!
2006-10-02 11:59:37 · answer #3 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to be selective, but you have to make sure that you don't over do it and end up alone. Remember that the first guy you date won't necesarily be the guy you marry so give other guys a chance, you may change your views a bit a become a little more open minded and you really never know what the future has in store for you. Regardless, never allow others opinion put you down.
2006-10-02 11:46:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing. get ur concentraion over ur own development at present. life is not VERY short.. and life is a celebration. You will surely get a loads of happiness and enjoyment of all kinds. But , you should have better priorities..I wsih u go for making up ur carrer and ur own creativity. and wait and work for the best that can happen to you. Be objectivistic. U may have a BF cos U like , love someone and u find him the best person U know. but to have a BF just becos all 15-16 years old girls usually have BF is a wrong perception.. dont go for the beaten path.. use ur own reasons and opt for that which U think will be the best for U...best of Luck.
2006-10-02 11:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by temptations_irresistible1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you get older and go to a colloge you will find the guy your looking for. In high school people don't know what they want and were they are going to end even if they are smart. Just start dating people and enjoy life. Don't search for the exaact guy you want you won't find them perfect. Just lay back and date other guys the more expirenced you are the better for you in the future and if you don't date now it's going to be much harder for you in the future because you are going to expect more from guys. Just live life because it's to short. And date guys that you r attracted to you never know what the results would be.
2006-10-02 11:46:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you are not wrong at all. that is a blessing to have a mind like that, and thats a good thing that you want a man who loves the Lord and who is a christian. Without God nothing will go right. I was like that too I didnt have a boyfriend until I turned 20 its not because im unattractive because I know Im fine but I was picky and God sent me my angel. Keep doing that miss God will sent you your mate. The bible says a man finds the woman. so dont rush or looking for love.
2006-10-02 11:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Leosr1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing - to a degree; being selective is fine, but don't be judgmental.
There are many fine young men who will respect your purity and goals for your life, yet may not be "christian" or have a good job yet. Remember, you're not husband-shopping....yet. Just think about dating and having a good time with boys (as long as they know that sex is not an option beforehand); missing that part of life will leave you wondering when you're older about what you missed.
2006-10-02 11:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know someone is going to end up in prision or being a janitor when they are still in their teens?
Isn't that a little judgamental? Why only a christian? Aren't you open to other ideas or to even questioning yourself?
Don't worry, you are still young. You have your whole life to figure out what you want in life and find someone you love.
Just remember that love is not about religion or life opportunities. Love just happens, and it will surprise you when you least expect it.
2006-10-02 11:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by Eclipse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are young, but you attitude is one of shallowness, which means that the criteria you set for the 'ideal' man are too picky and nearly impossible to obtain. As you get older, and hopefully mature, your attitudes will change, and the man of your dreams will be a different thing than today. But idf you stick to this attitude, you will be: Lonely, looking for (what feels like) love in all the wrong places with all the wrong people.
But Good Luck, anyway...........
2006-10-02 12:01:40 · answer #10 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your doing the right thing by wanting a guy that has goals but just know that people aren't perfect therefore don't be too selective. Mainly because that could lead you to never finding a man if you are looking for him to be perfect to the "T" it just doesn't work that way sweetie.
2006-10-02 11:47:24 · answer #11 · answered by liliw24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋