bullying help?

Question

since year 2 my son, who is now in year 5 has been bullied by the same child, i have spoke to the teachers involved and my son is just told to keep away from the child, i am waiting for the head to phone me back now, any more suggestions, apart from throttling the child, which is very tempting

Answer 1

Tell the school you are contacting OFSTED and the Education Department. That's what I did when my son was being bullied and the school soon sorted it out.
There is also information on what to do on the OFSTED web site and also there are alot of bullying websites to help you out.

Unfortunately schools don't do enough where bullying is concerned and it is left up to us parents to get it sorted but there is alot of help out there. Also, ask the school if they have a bullying policy. They might not as primary schools aren't obliged to have one but you never know. If they do have one then they have to give you a copy. You need to be firm with the school and let them no you won't put up with it any longer and that you will take action against them if they don't sort it.
After all, within school hours they are our children's legal guardians!!!

Good Luck

http://www.ofsted.gov.uk/

http://www.bullying.co.uk/

Answer 2

yes...get the childs parents to attend a meeting with you and the head teacher, have it out with them, dont let this kid ruin your childs life, it could be because the kids parents are doing something wrong, the only other suggestion is to get your child to stand up for himself and show this little toe rag that he will not take any more abuse from him, it's not the right way, but bullies are usually cowards and think that they are smart by picking on other kids in front of their friends, a good slap may do it...but i would not recommend it.....my son was bullied at school until the day he left, he waited outside the school gates and gave this loser a good slapping, even to this day that bully is too scared to approach my son,

Answer 3

These days there are strict rules for schools and how they must deal with complaints such a bullying. It is not unheard of for schools to be sued for damages for being complicit in the bullying. Your childs school should have a documented procedure for dealing with bullying, both of staff and students, and if not the government body or the local council who control the school should have a policy.
It is the schools duty to do something about this. Your child should not be told just to stay away from the other kid - it should be the other kid, and their parents, who are told to stop his bullying ways and if not the consequences. In most cases this is generally suspension or expulsion from the school.

Answer 4

Hi i would go in one morning with your child and go straight to the head of the school and complain face to face. Just inform then that if it continues you will be speaking to someone higher up about them not doing out about your sons bullying and then tell them if it carries on you will remove your child from the school. They wont like this and should jump at the chance of doing something about bullying. Its impossible to keep your child away from this bully as its the bully who wont leave him alone. Theres no need for you to make an appoinment with the head i would just go in and demand to see him.

Answer 5

If you aren't getting anywhere with the school talk to his parents & if that doesn't work do what I told my son to do. Tell him to scream like all get out then deck the little brat. When you get called to the school for your son's behavior inform them that you were pleading for help and nobody would help you with this bullying issue. So your kid took things into his own hands. You see the screaming will get EVERYBODY"S attention then the punch or a hickory nut crunch oughta just about do the job and get your kid sent to the principal's office. Then you as the parent get to have a little fun. Good Luck

Answer 6

If i was in your postion i would call the school and speak to the principal about your son and the buly that is bothering him and then explain to him how your son feels about the bully and let the principal know how you feel about the situation and if nothing happens. Talk to the superintendent. Theres lots of ways you could take care of this problem. You could even have a conference with the bully's parent's or the bully himself discussing about with your son. see what works best and don't stop till you are satisfied.

Answer 7

My son suffered the same bullying and teachers offered same. His parents were total scum and even allowed their child to curse. Wrongly or rightly I told my son to hurt this boy really badly, but he was terrified to do it. Again I made a decision that he had to do it himself. I got my older son (by six years) who boxed - every day to ask him what had happened. If nothing my older son beat my younger up - badly! This happened for 3 weeks until the fear of the bully was overshadowed by the fear of getting beat up by his sibling. My son totally kicked this little shi*s ar*e up and down the school. On parents night I was actually commended (privately) as this boy was not just bullying my son. (They didn't know the method obviously). My logic was that at his age (6) at time and having another 5/6 years of primary with this boy that, as heartbreaking as it was for me I knew it was lesser of two evils. Even if your son is slight and weak physically, bullies do not like retaliation of any kind.

It's just a suggestion but sometimes you have to stand up.

Incidentally my son now 11 is highly regarded by his peers and never suffered from the experience. He looks back with pride at being able to stand up for himself.

Others may not agree with this but I was at end of tether.

Answer 8

Don't wait for the head to call, get down the school and demand to be seen. My eldest had the same problem and i got sick of schools saying they don't have bullying problems. Let them know you wont go-away until the problem is sorted. If they don't satisfy you that they are dealing with it go above their heads and get the school governors or local council involved. Don't worry about upsetting any one its your child and you have the right to protect them.

Answer 9

Your son has to start now by standing up for himself. As sad as it is it might just be making it worse with the adults getting involved. You will have to help your son get up the nerve to walk up to the other boy and tell him to stop. If the other boy threatens him he needs to just hit him. I went through this same thing for two years in high school. The minute I stood up to the girl she backed down. I spent two years in hell till I stood up for myself. He just has to learn how. It is a very rough world and you may not always be there.

Answer 10

I suffered a similiar problem in primary school and I suggest you tell you son what my parents told me: "You don't start a fight, but if he want's one you damn well finish it!"

If the school won't do anything; then you must address the situation personally. Talk to the parents of the child; they may not be aware of the situation. And if your son gets in trouble for fighting with the kid; support him one hundred percent regardless of what he has done 'In self-defense'.