me and my girlfriend broke up yesterday,i was drunk and slept with a girl and my girlfriend found out.it was the biggest mistake of my life,i cant explain why i did it or what is going throu my head.i cant work,i cant eat,i cant sleep.how do i get throu this empty feeling inside?
2006-10-02 04:17:34 · 23 answers · asked by baseball_saenz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Mending a broken heart can be rough sometimes. You really just have to let time run its own course. Be active....get involed in things to keep your mind off of her. Don't go searching for a new relationship though.If you truely love her, try talking to her. Surprise her with something extremely romantic.....let her know that u were an idiot. Don't use being drunk as an excuse. Take full responsibility for what u did and just hope for the best. Good Luck!
2006-10-02 04:22:02 · answer #1 · answered by ok2beme80 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. Time to get your priorities straight, guy.
Okay, you slept with a girl. What was going through you head? That's easy. Alcohol mostly. Did this other girl know you were seeing some one? If so, she's as much to blame as you are. Take it from me, once the alcohol gets in your system, you're an easy more for any girl to take advantage of you.
Now, let's talk about this ' broken heart ' of yours. It's called " Guilt and Loneliness" Enter country song of your choice here, and there you are. Is this the first time that this has happened? Did you explain to her the circumstances under which the act of adultery occured? If it is and you did, then this is starting to sound like a "set up".
This is when a girl wants to break up with her boyfriend, but doesn't want to look like a [censure] doing it. So, she has two options:
1) Find a mistake and blow it out of perportion. Make it seem worse than it really is, mainly to everyone else., and leave because of the " emotional agony you've pur her through "
2) Arrange a meeting with said guy and another female. This is when alcohol (or some other drug) is invovled. Guy gets seduced, woman hears about it " for the first time " and can leave with a clear conscience.
Did either of these things happen? No clue. I don't know her. But if this is the first time you've done this, then it's a strong possiblility. If her " love " for you was so fragile, that it broke at the first test, then it wasn't love. you were being used.
So, my advice. See her for what she is, not what she wants you to see. How did you find this girl? Find another. There's probibly a woman out there going through the same thing you are that needs a strong man to help her through.
But first and fore-most, take care of yourself. Take your life back. It was your life before she came into it, and it's your life now. If you want a woman, you need to be the man.
best wishes.
2006-10-02 04:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by Odindmar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her leave her sweet voice mails, text her,email her, go see her do anything you can to make sure she knows you're sorry..but even if everything is ok and you 2 get back together.. there will always be a trust issue...
you also have to understand how much it hurts a girl when a guy cheats, its not even the whole sex thing..its just how can you ever want to be with anyone else but her??? And its if you really loved her you wouldn't have done it..and its that sex is an emotional thing for a girl--so she probably feels that there had to be an emotional thing you had for that other girl to have slept with her..and that she must not have been good enough. you see where I'm going with this??
you also have to figure out why did you cheat?? You need to be sober, sit down and just think what could have made you do this to the woman you love...
Really take that into consideration good luck!
2006-10-02 04:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by lila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-04 03:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by mehaffey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did an incredibly stupid thing and that's the price you pay. I'm sorry. I feel disgusted by you & at the same time kinda sorry for you. Does your ex refuse to speak to you now? If I was you, I'd grovel and kiss the ground she walks on. If she's worth it. You didn't say how close the 2 of you were. Is it beyond hope now? If she is rather young she won't give you a second chance, ther needs to be a maturity level present on both your sides to recover. If my man did what you did, I would dump him. Make him suffer, make him grovel, make him talk to me about it and answer ALL my questions. Then, I'd probably take him back. I've seen beautiful relationships ruined forever due to stupid indiscretions, but I've also seen them heal & become stronger. Good luck. Hope I helped.
2006-10-02 04:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated for some stupid reason that you don't know or can fathom.
This is a sign that you & she were not ready to be in a relationship.
As for your broken heart:
You have no one but your self to blame for your actions.
Apologize to her in a heart felt manner.
Leave this girl alone.
Figure out why you cheated.
Might want to not drink as heavily as you do
Wait a few weeks then try again armed with the knowledge of this incident under you hat.
Good luck !
2006-10-02 04:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can repent before the girl, and you already did, right? And asked for forgiveness?... Hopefully sinserely. You do sound sinsere. And even though I am more sympathetic towards your girl... I have something to tell you... The empty feeling inside is because you need to come to God and repent before Him. It is ultimate. With your girl (or maybe previous girls) you were trying to fill the emptiness within you. But the girls will never satisfy. That's why you slept with another one. Eventually that happens... Only God can satisfy your loneliness and heal your broken heart. And He will accept you.
2006-10-02 04:23:54 · answer #7 · answered by thankful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get one of your friends to be there for you all the time if you need to complain or talk about stuff...one friend that can always listen and has the time to do so. I suggest making a clean break because the only thing I can think of that is worse than BREAKING up would be SPLITTING up...splitting sounds more painful...tearing ect...make it clean morn the loss of your g/f then down the road you'll be happier again. and ah...never drink alone and maybe not with women right now...
2006-10-02 04:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With time, the only thing that heals a broken heart is time. It sucks but it's the truth. Unless you try talking to your girlfriend, sending her flowers letting her know how truly sorry you are. Let her know that you love her and no one else.
2006-10-02 04:19:28 · answer #9 · answered by farmergyrl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you should feel a little pain for a while. maybe next time you'll think twice about getting drunk and cheating on your girlfriend. I hope you realise that your cheating was a selfisk cowardly act.
2006-10-02 04:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋