Should the dogs sleep in the bed or off the bed?

Question

I have 2 large dogs and I am getting married, and we are coflicted about letting them sleep on or off the bed. (I say on, he says off.) Where do yours sleep and why? Thanks!

By the way, people, I said SLEEP. not during other activities. Those of you who thought otherwise are really twisted.

Answer 1

I have a large Labrador and he sleeps with me. He has from 7 weeks old and he will until the end. My dog has been a huge part of my life, he is ALWAYS there when I need a friend, he loves and worships me not matter what and there is no living being that is More loyal to me than him. So if he wants to sleep in my bed thats where he going to sleep. It makes him happy and he gives so much to me it is a small price to pay. I know my boyfriend disagrees but that is his problem. A lot of times if my boyfriend stays over my dog either chooses to sleep on the floor or will protest and make his sleep impossible. Yeah its a problem but I let them fight it out.

Answer 2

Well, I would say off the bed. Although this will be difficult as they are already used to sleeping with you. Do this gradually, and do it alone when your fiance is not spending the night. If he is there they will resent him as taking their place. Get a nice doggy bed and decide where you want them to sleep. Next to the bed? In the kitchen? Pick a spot and stick to it.
I have 2 Bichons that sleep with me, but occasionally I have them sleep on a doggy bed so that they can be accostumed to sleeping off the bed sometimes, and if I ever get married it will make the transition easier. Because I think a spouse should come before a pet. BEST WISHES!!

Answer 3

I have 2 small dogs (shih tzu X) one older one and the newest edition we got 2 weeks ago from the pound - the older one usually starts sleeping on the bed but gets off and hops onto the couch in the lounge and the younger one (8 months old) sleeps on the bed all night - I have had varying dog sizes throughout my life ranging from the 2 I have now to Dobermans and even up to an Irish Wolf Hound - the Dobermans were find to sleep on or in bed with me but the Wolf Hound he was just too big so slept on the couch :) I have always been brought up knowing my pets to sleep where ever they please and Im perfectly fine with that - If your dog is used to sleeping on the bed and your partner has other ideas this could possibly cause a conflict in their relationship - the dog may end up resenting your partner or he just may not have a choice as, as often as he boots the dog off it will just keep getting up on the bed again :) Good luck!

Answer 4

Its one thing when you are Single to do what you Wish but if you are joining with someone else You are no longer ........"Me" turns into a "We" and it seems as though you are on on the Way to knowing what this means since you are asking. But Since it is now "We" what you do is do what the most important part of any Union involves - which is Communication and this involves both of you giving your Views and Why and Compromise has to come into it - if you have opposite views. This way neither one is forced to give up fully- something which is so important to them. With this method of talking it thru some other aspects might come out that you or your partner hasn t really thought about and some of the original ideas might not seem as important as they were before. Its not a matter of win or lose - its having it work for the both of you-the best that it can thru compromise- And you both win because it will deepen your relationship - The Win/Lose of competition will only build walls-with each and every thing that comes with two different people. It will build a wall between the two of you-brick by brick. No two people are ever going to be alike and you wouldn t want them to be. Its part of the Joy of it to have someone to add to your life with their differences. You ll have things in Common and things that makes You-You and no one should have to give up too much of who they are. And with normal healthy personalities you can enjoy each other with having things in life that you enjoy together and have some of your own life left intact.

So situation is One of the many you have and it is a situation that has to be rectified and with both of you and the dog adjusting somewhat.

Old Dogs can learn new things and that also includes Humans. Have a discussion and even write it down if you want with the pros and cons for everyone. Sometimes it is easier to see things on paper. And after having done so-give it a rest a few days to mull over what was said of each ones views and then go back in and make a decision that may change some of the desires of the ones involved but dozen t end up a complete loss on one persons end.

If you can t do this without someone controlling the other then your union will never work. Its natural that if you want someone in your life that other adjustments have to be made and to take this different life into Consideration. Also think of the future - if kids enter into the equation..... It could then come up if the kids can come into the family bed and/or kids come into the picture and in the house and this puts a different spin and attention that the dogs will have and they get jealous and then your kids are at risk with possible ill behavior from the pets towards them. Even with that - with the addition of other pets, friends or family members that come along with choice we can look forward to this but still be jealous of one or the others more natural attachment to such addition. Such as in again if you have children and who ever is the main caretaker will develop more of a bond with them and this has put the other person feelling left out.

Its always important to not let anyone (Even pets) feel left out. You all can adjust (Even pets) and make up in other ways losing what they have been use to. For exsample - if it is deemed the dog shouldn t be included in nighttime sleeps when the other person is there-they can learn when the other person is there its not appropriate anymore and you could include them with a ocassional nap session or before or after the other person is there. OR the other person can accept sometimes the dog in the bed but on the other side of you and not in the middle. AND if the decision the dog stays - then it may be required to get alot bigger Sleeping area-even if it includes moving a single sz next to the regular bed and it is only allowed on that. So many different senarios could be worked out.

Good Luck

Answer 5

it all depends really.but if the dogs get too used to sleeping on the bed you and your husband will have a hard time making love cause the dogs will expect to be on the bed all the time.get a dog bed for them and start making them sleep on the floor at the end of the bed.and once they get used to there new bed move them out of the room.cause believe you me,when you wake up in the morning you might end you giving the dog a kiss and not you husband or they might not let your husband touch you while your all in the bed.small dogs are alright but 2 big dogs with two people,you won't get a good night sleep.

Answer 6

If they sleep on the bed you better very quietly make love, they may think he is hurting you and take a chunk out of him. That is definitely not a good way to start a marriage! I can't say on or off. I am a senior and have always had some form of dog or cat on my bed but it surely has its drawbacks,licking,scratching,constant defleaing,shedding, wet, sometimes muddy, smelly dogs. Washing sheets every few days,covering bedspread to keep it clean. I did it because I was lonely and afraid but you are going to have a husband with you. Think I'd take the man in bed and put dogs on floor. Going to be hard though probably be easier to train him to sleep on the floor. Good luck and have a happy life either way.

Answer 7

Well B4 I got my 2 girls .. I would have said off but I think you know yourself what the answer is ... I have 2 Bichon Frise who sleep on my bed and also 2 kitty kats who when not out and about sleep there too ... At the mo I am single so I don't mind but I wouldn't leave them there for long if the bed was occupied for other reasons :smile: They have plenty of other beds/couches/chairs etc ... to stay in when I need my space :-)

Answer 8

It is never a good idea to let a dog sleep on a bed, even if you're the only human in it. Dogs are pack animals and naturally want to follow a GOOD leader. By allowing them on the bed, you're telling them they are equal to (or higher than) you in rank and at best you're confusing the dog. If the dog must sleep in the room with you, designate a spot on the floor or get a dog bed and allow the dog to only sleep there.

Before everyone throws in the "but I love my dog" argument, pleae note that I have three dogs that I wouldn't trade for the world. But BECAUSE I love them, I create an environment that is conducive to their natural state of mind. They have no doubt that I am pack leader and because of that our relationship is very strong.

Answer 9

I have 3 dogs, they all sleep in the bed with us. 1 large and 2 medium size dogs. Once they are allowed to sleep in the bed it is hard to get them to change. I say to keep the peace between you and your fiance, get them a doggy bed and let them sleep in the room it is the best of 2 evils.

Answer 10

I have two kittens who sleep with me on the bed and that is my decision being a single chap.

However, you say they are large mutts. I see no conflict here really unless you have an Olympic swimming pool-sized bed - if you are cohabiting they are out.

Use your loaf - they are your dogs and will be protective of you. If they are present on the marital bed when you make love, if you are a noisy girl they will think you are being attacked and your lover may find his moving rear end will be eaten.

Wise up.