I feel so ugly that I hate looking at myself in the mirror. I know I shouldn't feel so superficial but when I meet people, they don't look at me when talking to me and I have become very self-conscious about this. I have noticed if I am around other attractive people, they will interact with each other far more than with me. It makes me feel like they don't want to look at me because of my face. I have also noticed how arrogant and uncaring most attractive people are (most, not all) so I wonder if being attractive makes you this way. I have thought about having plastic surgery just so I don't have to feel this way anymore, but I couldnt face the embarrassment of explaining to my parents why I should change what I was born with. Help me please.
2006-10-02 03:31:39 · 18 answers · asked by L.S. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
please don't feel that way.. you are insulting God's creation and it's yourself and it's like you indirectly blaming your parents for having a physical features you have now..
what u really need to build on is confidence.. well most people don't have this aspect...they have the physical features that people may envy but hey....it's the beauty that comes within... as they say.. beauty lies on the beholder?
so what if you are not attractive as them.. you have some aspects that they don't have and that you should be concentrating on.. don't dwell on your physical attributes.. but if you are really bothered..try to visit a dermatologist that can help you with if that is the only way that will be boast ur confidence
2006-10-02 03:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
While it's true that a lot of superficially-attractive people can be arrogant and uncaring, when you're in big groups of people, they probably interact with you less because of the personality you exude. Meaning, if you're not confident enough to be comfortable with yourself, then you're not going to be comfortable having conversations with other people, so they may not find you very fun to be around. A lot of people feel unattractive (I personally want to barf every time I look at myself after waking up) at some point or another, but it's all in how you can get over feeling that way. If plastic surgery is what you really think can help get you out of this slump, no one can stop you, but consider how much it'll cost, along with the fact that you can change small parts of yourself (like your nose and lips) but you'll always generally look the same. That means whatever that's causing your disgust for yourself is all in you. There are people that will talk to you no matter what you look like, and it seems like you're hanging around the wrong crowds. Find some fun, UN-SUPERFICIAL people to be around! Then you'll have more confidence in yourself, and you'll be able to talk to anyone.
As an aside, figure out what makes you hate the way you look. Are your teeth crooked? Get braces. Do you have acne? Try Proactiv. Are you overweight? Lose some. Do you look dirty sometimes? Shower more often, trim your fingernails, and wash your clothes. Do a lot of little things and you'll find you won't feel so bad about yourself. Good luck!
2006-10-02 03:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to learn to be more confident in who you are as a person. People can see how unconfident you are, by the way you portray yourself. It takes hard work, but you need to focus on who you are as a person. People could tell you all day, that you are not ugly and a handsome guy, but until the day you believe in yourself, you are not going to believe them. Beauty and good looks starts on the inside. You can take a woman who is not the best good looking woman and if she is confident in who she is as a person, will look better than an attractive woman who isn't confident. You need to work on you as a person, not a picture...After that your hard work will show on the outside....Learn to love yourself, if you can't do that how will you ever learn to love anyone else....I used to have the same problem and still to this day, occasionally think I am not attractive, but if you look around, if people are honest there is no one in the world who thinks they are perfect, for the ones who do, they are not! Please for the sake of your sanity, come to the conclusion that all people have mistakes, but those are what makes us Gods children, and if you don't like your look, you don't like Gods work, he made you...Good luck, be strong, strong minded, self assured, and take care!
2006-10-02 03:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen man, you only have one life to live. Dont let such things bother you. I'll bet that you arent as ugly as you say you are. Kind of like people that say they are fat but they really arent. Self confidence shines through looks almost always. I have seen guys that I think I look better than get girls that I would consider far out of my league. Its about the attitude man. you have to have a positive one. that alone will make you appear attractive. you might try a new hair style. or if you have bad acne maybe you could wear a little makeup to cover it up. while treating. well, not knowing anything else about you such as your age, that is about all I can say. Best of luck to you my friend.
2006-10-02 03:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Bistro 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, your not alone feeling this way i feel the same way every time i walk towards a glass door i duck my head so i wont see myself. but i am going to start to excerise an "try" to eat healthier am going to buy the Doctor Ian book. Plus am getting help you should to. you would be amazed how better you feel after just one talk with the psycologist
I wish you happiness.
2006-10-02 03:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can't be that bad, you are made the way god wants you,so don't change any. God has a reason for making us the way he does. I sometimes feel the same I think every one does once in a while. Things will get better.
2006-10-02 03:41:03 · answer #6 · answered by jackie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure things are no were near as bad as you say,we all want to look good and get on with people. if you stopped criticising them and tried to be a little caring towards them and show an interest in other peoples lives, they may start to view you differently.maybe you should see about some counsel ling to help boost your confidence in speaking and mixing with other people.
2006-10-02 03:49:30 · answer #7 · answered by L G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be really surprised at this, but the pretty girls in high school are not so pretty years later. Some of the ones that I never thought could be pretty turned out to be lovely young women.
2006-10-02 03:38:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
inside of you there must be a very wonderful thing you have in your character that you never know try to find it and use it and you will find that you are an attractive person to all that you meet also you must know how to LOVE your self
2006-10-02 03:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by besbasa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably suffering from some type of depression or dysmorphic disorder. Your insecurity is probably what is putting a curb on your social activities.
Talk to your physician, and ask for a referral to a psychologist.
2006-10-02 03:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋